When my disabled friends tell me they’re pregnant I’m like… HOW?! Not in a shady way — in an “I can barely keep *me* alive” kinda way 😭*

People ask me if I ever want kids, and honestly… it’s a hard question.

Not because I don’t love the idea of it — but because living in a disabled body with chronic health stuff means I have to think about things most people never even consider.

What happens on the days my body completely shuts down? What does parenting look like when you’re already at capacity before the day even starts?

It’s not that I don’t want to imagine that future — it’s just complicated.

And I think that’s okay to say out loud.

So when I see my disabled friends stepping into motherhood with joy, with community, with their *own rules* — it gives me so much hope. Because they’re proof that there’s no one way to parent, no one path to wholeness.

If you’re disabled and navigating this question too: I see you. We don’t need answers today. Just honesty, gentleness, and maybe a nap.

#DisabilityPride #DisabledAndThinking #ChronicIllnessLife #OneDayAtATime

#disability #momsoftiktok #parenting #disabled #mamasita #limbdifference

2025/6/23 Edited to

... Read moreParenthood can be challenging for anyone, but for individuals with disabilities, the journey can feel even more intricate. Many disabled individuals often grapple with the societal expectations of parenting while managing their own health conditions. This combination necessitates difficult questions and thoughtful reflections on personal capacity, support systems, and long-term implications of parenthood. Living with a disability entails facing unique obstacles that most might not consider. These include unpredictable health situations that can affect day-to-day life. For example, chronic illnesses can lead to days of fatigue, making routine tasks difficult, let alone the demands of raising a child. This reality raises essential questions: How do I care for a child on days when simply getting out of bed is a battle? What kind of support will I need? How will I ensure my child’s needs are met while balancing my own? It is essential to acknowledge that there are multiple ways to approach parenting, especially in the disabled community. Many disabled parents have begun to carve their own paths in motherhood, establishing support networks, seeking out resources tailored to their needs, and redefining what parenting looks like for them. Whether it's connecting with other disabled parents online or joining local parenting groups, building a community can be incredibly empowering. The challenge of navigating these deep considerations alongside others who share similar experiences can provide tremendous support and inspire hope. Those looking to embrace parenthood while managing a disability often find solace in sharing their journeys with others. Each story adds to a collective tapestry that acknowledges the diverse paths towards love, parenthood, and fulfillment. Together, disabled individuals can uplift one another and inspire future generations, demonstrating that joy, family, and resilience are possible regardless of one’s physical limitations. Ultimately, it is important for those considering parenthood to engage in honest dialogue with themselves and their loved ones about their desires, fears, and the reality of their circumstances. No matter the decision—whether to become a parent, to seek support, or simply to live authentically as an individual with a disability—each choice reflects empowerment and agency.

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Girl disabled or not mother hood is extremely hard. On those days your body don’t want to function you still have to show up. The saying it takes a village to raise a child is serious but honestly those that don’t have that village should seriously think about it. I got sick after my daughter was born and my daughter was diagnosed with ASD I honestly don’t think I would’ve had her if I was sick before having her

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