Is somebody gonna match my freak🥲

Okay, so we've all been there, right? Scrolling through dating apps or just observing relationships, wondering if anyone out there truly 'gets' us. My original post touched on my personal 'freak' checklist – those specific, sometimes quirky, things I look for in a partner. But let's get real about 'the not-so-subtle art of matchmaking' and how we can actually find someone who truly matches our vibe, instead of just wishing for it. First things first, before you can ask someone to 'handle my attitude and mood swings' or 'buy me flowers,' you need to define what your 'freak' even is. For me, it's those little acts of service and understanding. It’s knowing someone will patiently 'not get mad at me for laggin' during a game or happily 'make slime w me' on a chill afternoon. It's not about being demanding; it's about knowing your needs and non-negotiables. What are yours? Write them down! Don't be shy about wanting to be 'spoiled me' or having someone 'pay for my nails' – these are expressions of care that resonate differently for everyone. Understanding your own love language is key here. It's about celebrating what makes you, well, *you*! Now, for the 'not-so-subtle' part. I used to think I had to play it cool, but honestly, being clear about what you want saves so much time and heartache. This isn't about giving an ultimatum on a first date, but about subtly (or not-so-subtly, depending on your style!) communicating your authentic self. If 'take naps w me' is your ideal Sunday, share that part of yourself! If you value someone who appreciates your 'attitudenmood swings' for what they are – part of your personality – then look for that understanding. The right person won't be scared off by your quirks; they'll be drawn to them. It's about radiating confidence in your desires and not settling for anything less than what truly makes you happy. So how do you actually find this person? It's not always about grand gestures. It starts with self-care and putting yourself in environments where you can meet compatible people. Think about where someone who'd 'buy you flowers' just because, or who'd enjoy making slime, might hang out. Online dating profiles are a great place to showcase your 'freak' – candidly mention your love for spontaneous naps or your need for understanding when you're feeling a bit moody. And when you do meet someone, pay attention to how they interact with you. Do they listen? Do they show genuine interest in your unique needs? Are they open to 'spoiling' you in ways that resonate? Remember, the goal isn't perfection, but a genuine, joyful match where both people feel seen and valued for exactly who they are.