To...Ages 30-40 who reclaim life at night
To...Ages 30-40 Who Reclaim Night Life: When Being Up Late Is a Painful "Revenge"
At one o'clock in the house, the blue light from the mobile screen still hits your face...You know there's a morning meeting tomorrow, and you know that your body is tired until your eyes are closed, but you can't put your phone down, keep plowing the screen, watch short clips, read stories that don't matter, or watch series that aren't thrilled.
This is not laziness, but "Revenge Bedtime Procrastination," or "Revenge Bedtime Procrastination."
1. Revenge caused by your "kindness"
For ages 30-40, this is the age of carrying the world on your shoulders. Your day is not yours, but it is the head of the customer, the customer, the parent who is getting old, or the child who is growing. You spend all your energy on "acting" until you forget that you exist.
When the clockwise falls late at night, your subconscious shouts out, "This is the only time I really own my life." Not sleeping is a silent protest against the oppressive schedule, a revenge for the power you've lost all day.
2. When the "remedy" becomes "harm"
We often comfort ourselves, "Give me a little more time," but the painful truth is that revenge by not sleeping never wins us, because the person who takes the karma the next morning is "ourselves."
In brain science, when we are tired of depressing our hearts all day, the frontal brain power that controls ourselves runs out of taps, so it is easier for us to prey on "cheap dopamine" from social media, we do not really rest, but we are burning the last energy on stimuli that do not generate mental energy.
3. Change from "revenge" to "embrace."
If you are in this cycle, I want you to adjust the perspective:
Allow ourselves to be "free" during the day: Why we yearn for late at night, because we don't have any "space" left for ourselves during the day, try to find five to 10 minutes, sip a quiet coffee, or walk to the sky without a phone to tell our brain, "I still own my life."
Sleeping is to "love yourself," not "defeat": turning off the sleeping lights is not to succumb to work duties, but to reward a tired body for a whole day; to give you the power to go "fight" for yourself tomorrow.
Lowering expectations: At this age, we often want to be everything for everyone, but the truth is that we are just ordinary people who need to rest. Recognizing that "today is good at doing so" will reduce the stress that needs to be compensated at night.
A short message to you.
You're in your 30s-40s...You're very good at supporting everything, but don't forget that "the most quality time" is not when you use your mobile screen at 2am, but when you sleep so that your heart can repair itself.
Tonight, take a deep breath and tell yourself: "I'm done today. Now it's time to act for myself...With sleep. "
Good night, and tomorrow is the day you have the full strength inside.