Why I never “treat” myself

I don’t like to use the idea of treat days or treat items because then I have a connotation that I need to earn these items and if I don’t reach that goal to earn it then I feel like a failure.

Instead I like to sprinkle in these “treat” items into daily occurrences. With this I also redefined what I saw as a treat.

A treat was now anything that I didn’t need on a daily basis or something that isn’t essential to my health and wellbeing. This includes so so many things which makes it fun.

For example: I go to the grocery store to buy my weekly groceries. While there maybe I also pick up a new ice cream flavor I want to try or that ollipop I saw on TikTok. These aren’t my normal essentials so thus it’s a treat.

I always add something in like that when I can because life is hard and we only live it once so we might as well always offer ourselves a small treat because we never know when it’s our last.

#embracevulnerability #shareyourthoughts #Lemon8Diary #lemon8diarychallenge #Lemon8

2024/2/10 Edited to

... Read moreIn today's fast-paced world, the idea of treating oneself often carries an implication of necessity or earning that treat. Many people feel pressured to achieve specific goals before enjoying small pleasures. This mindset can sometimes lead to feelings of failure or guilt if those benchmarks are not met. Instead, embracing a philosophy of intermittent joy can enrich your daily life. A treat can be anything outside of your daily essentials – whether that’s experimenting with new flavors of ice cream, like a unique chocolate chip scone, or simply indulging in something you've spotted on social media. By altering the definition of a 'treat', we can incorporate these small delights into our routine without needing to justify them. Living with this mindset can ignite creativity and excitement in even the simplest activities, such as grocery shopping. The key is to recognize that it’s perfectly acceptable to prioritize moments of enjoyment amidst life's responsibilities. Emphasizing personal happiness, no matter how small, can lead to an overall greater sense of fulfillment. So, let’s redefine how we view treats, move away from the idea of earning them, and instead sprinkle them generously into our everyday experiences.

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I started doing this too! Noticed a major boost in my discipline (in the way that I learned to practice moderation) and also in my overall moods 😊

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