Bettering my Relationship

6 things i’m doing to better my relationship with my fiancé :

1. STEPPING AWAY! when we feel the need to argue or be mad at each other, we take a 10-30 minute breather, and don’t text or talk to each other. this gives both of us time to cool down, and think about what we’ll say, instead of speaking out of anger.

2. MAKING TIME FOR EACH OTHER. we both have very busy lives. he has a blue collar job, and i’m in the medical field. sometimes we don’t have all the time in the world to spend with each other. but while we’re living apart for the next few weeks we always make sure to take time out of our days to see each other whether it be for 30 minutes or 4 hours.

3. no phones after s$x. i know some couples do enjoy their screen times after having sex, but with my fiancé we both agree to put the phones down afterwords. we usually take a shower, and lay down and watch a movie afterwords, or just lay together and talk. it really helps! aftercare is very important and it’s different for each person. find what works best for you!

4. never to to bed ANGRY! i don’t want to wake up still mad at my fiancé, so i make sure the issue is solved before we say goodnight. because if not, the problem could continue into the next day and continue an argument for a while, and no one wants that.

5. COMMUNICATE feelings. i have a problem myself with telling my fiancé when something upsets me. but communicating that with your partner can help them understand where you’re coming from. make sure you talk to them! keeping it all to yourself can make you feel alone, and the problem won’t fix itself if you let it sit there and be, because in his/her eyes, they’re doing nothing to upset you.

6. weekly debrief. we go over what we can fix, and what went well.

#relationship girly #healthyrelationship #embracevulnerability #Lemon8Diary #unfiltered

2024/7/19 Edited to

... Read moreYou know those moments when you just need to *breathe*? We all have them, especially when life gets hectic or emotions run high. Sometimes, for me, or for my fiancé with his blue-collar job, that sweet spot for decompression is finding a quiet corner, or maybe even just sitting in the truck for a few minutes. I've noticed a lot of people search for 'do you ever just sit in your truck?' and it makes so much sense! It's more than just sitting; it's about finding a moment of solitude to reset. In our journey to building a stronger relationship, we've learned that individual peace is just as crucial as shared happiness. My fiancé often comes home after a long day, and sometimes, those first few minutes alone in his truck are exactly what he needs to transition from work mode to 'us' mode. It's like his personal version of 'stepping away' before an argument even starts, which is one of my original tips. Instead of coming in and potentially bringing the day's stress with him, that brief solitude allows him to collect his thoughts and shift his energy. This ties directly into my first relationship tip about stepping away during arguments. When things get heated, having a designated space, even if it's just the driver's seat of a parked blue truck, can be invaluable. It's a place to cool down, to think clearly about what you want to communicate, rather than reacting out of anger. I've found that when one of us takes that time, we come back to the conversation with a much calmer, more constructive mindset. It prevents those small disagreements from spiraling into bigger issues, and it really helps us practice healthy communication, which is another key point for us. For me, sometimes it’s just chilling in the car before heading inside, listening to music, or just enjoying the quiet after a busy day in the medical field. It’s a mini-retreat, a way to process my own feelings before engaging fully. This personal reflection time is so important for being able to communicate effectively later. If I don't give myself that space, I might hold things in, which, as I mentioned in my fifth tip, definitely doesn't help solve problems! We've even found quiet moments in the truck together. Sometimes after a long day, just sitting there for a few minutes, maybe looking out at the night sky like in that picture of us outdoors at night, talking about our day or just enjoying each other's company without the distractions inside, can be a really intimate way to connect and make time for each other. It’s a simple way to debrief, to check in, and to ensure we're both feeling heard and understood, without the pressure of a formal 'weekly debrief.' So, yes, if you ever just sit in your truck, you're not alone! It's a powerful form of self-care that can profoundly impact your relationship by helping you manage stress, process emotions, and approach your partner with a clearer, calmer mind. It's all about finding what works for you to maintain that inner peace, which ultimately strengthens the bond you share.

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Melissa Durant

Honestly those are going to surely work; or atleast help maintain the foundation in which your relationship is built on ❤️

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sounds great 🥰❤️

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