Crush hurt my feelings
Last night I was talking with my crush and some of our friends. Out of nowhere he goes, “Alam mo kung paano mawawala pimples mo? Gamitin mo yung tansan ng Royal, ikuskos mo sa mukha mo.” Then he laughed.
I just rolled my eyes at him and pretended I wasn’t affected, but deep down I felt so embarrassed. Especially since he’s made comments like this before. The truth is, I’ve already spent so much money trying to treat my acne. Just when I thought it was getting better, he pointed it out again in front of people.
It made me realize how some guys are only nice to you when you’re “pretty.” I don’t know why he feels the need to joke about my insecurities when he knows it hurts.
Have you ever had your crush embarrass you like this? How did you handle it?
It's truly painful when someone you like makes fun of your insecurities, especially something as personal as acne. Skin issues are something many people struggle with and treating them can require considerable time, money, and emotional energy. When your crush jokingly suggests using a home remedy like 'tansan ng Royal' on your face, it can feel like they're dismissing all your efforts and making light of something that affects your confidence deeply. Many people face similar challenges, where those they care about may unintentionally or intentionally say things that hurt. This scenario highlights an important reminder about self-worth: your value is never determined by another person's comments or superficial standards of beauty. It’s okay to feel embarrassed or hurt, but what matters most is how you respond to those feelings. One way to handle these moments is to set clear boundaries. If your crush repeatedly makes insensitive remarks, consider having an honest conversation about how these comments make you feel. It can be a tough conversation to have, but it can help them understand your perspective and encourage a more respectful interaction. Another helpful approach is leaning on supportive friends or communities who validate your experiences and provide encouragement. Online groups or forums focused on acne support or self-confidence can offer comfort and practical tips. Lastly, embracing your natural self and practicing self-kindness is crucial. Skin imperfections do not define you. Many people experience acne at some point in life, and there are numerous effective treatments available from skincare professionals. Meanwhile, practices like mindfulness, positive affirmations, and self-care routines can help boost your confidence. Remember, people who truly care for you will respect and appreciate you as you are, not just when you meet some idealized standard of 'pretty.' Your feelings are valid, and taking steps to protect your emotional well-being is important. You deserve kindness—from others and from yourself.
My ex would point out and pick at my insecurities too. You learn to be the bigger person and walk away from the relationship. If they truly cared, they wouldn’t do something to hurt you in anyway.