I feel like love is over for me

I met my ex on Bumble last year and we started dating. But unfortunately he broke things off because he wasn’t over his ex and needed therapy to work on himself but then I found him on bumble two months later.

We spoke briefly. He recently turned 30 few weeks ago and he was telling me how he feels like he’s s in his prime years and how women love older men and he feels like his 30s will be his best years. Then he jokingly said how im screwed because men dont often go for older women and im fucked. He said, “good luck finding men in your pool ☠️” as a joke. He said some reference jokes from HIMYM (he really loves Barney).

But that shit fucking hurts me so much. I feel like he might be right. My dating life is over and I can’t get men the same way how I was able to in my 20s

Any encouragement would help me :( #relationshipadvice #AskLemon8

2024/3/19 Edited to

As we navigate different life stages, the challenges of dating can feel overwhelming, especially in your 30s. It's common to experience feelings of self-doubt and insecurity during this time, particularly when reflecting on past relationships and dating experiences. Women often face societal pressures regarding age and attractiveness, leading to feelings of discouragement. However, it's important to remember that dating success is not solely dictated by age; many people find meaningful connections later in life. Considerance of your interests and values can lead to better compatibility in future relationships. Focus on self-improvement and personal growth, as these can enhance your confidence and attractiveness to potential partners. There are also supportive communities and platforms that cater to individuals seeking genuine connections, allowing for interactions based on shared interests rather than stereotypical ideals of attraction. Ultimately, love does not have an expiration date, and each phase of life presents unique opportunities for connection and happiness. Embrace this period of your life with an open heart and mind, and remember, your worth is not defined by your relationship status.

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Miss Donna

that guy has 0 sense. he was looking for an ego boost by putting you down. they make block buttons for a reason

kylie

if anything, you dont have to worry as much about men like him being in your dating pool. but the men who are mature and sensible are still there, and *real* men appreciate the qualities and confidence a woman gains she gets older

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