he wore sweats to our date…

Okay so am I the bad guy here??

I asked my boyfriend not to wear joggers or sweats on our date night. Just once. I dressed up, did my makeup, wore perfume… and he showed up in wrinkled gray joggers like we were grabbing gas 😭

I told him it made me feel like he didn’t care. He said I was ā€œtoo focused on appearancesā€ and that it shouldn’t matter what he wears if he’s spending time with me.

But like??? I’m not asking for a suit. Just effort.

Was I asking for too much??

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2025/8/5 Edited to

... Read moreWhen it comes to dating etiquette, especially in modern relationships, clothing choices can often become a source of conflict and misunderstanding. Asking a partner not to wear joggers or sweats on a date night is a common request that many people relate to. This request typically reflects a desire for respect, effort, and consideration in how both partners present themselves. It's important to recognize that clothing is a form of nonverbal communication. Wearing casual or wrinkled sweats might unintentionally signal a lack of effort or care, which can hurt the other person’s feelings. On the other hand, some people prioritize comfort and might view their partner’s focus on appearances as superficial, leading to misunderstandings. Effective communication is key in resolving such issues. Expressing why the outfit matters—not just for appearance but as a symbol of appreciation and respect—often helps partners understand each other better. On the flip side, partners should also explain their perspective and comfort levels openly. Incorporating compromise, like agreeing on outfit standards that balance effort and comfort, can foster harmony. It’s also crucial to realize that no one expects formal wear every time; just a little effort beyond casual loungewear can make date nights feel special. Overall, navigating clothing expectations on dates involves mutual respect, empathy, and clear dialogue. Addressing these issues thoughtfully strengthens relationships, ensuring both partners feel valued and understood.

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stevenw

I agree dress appropriately on a date a guy has to have respect for himself and his partner wearing sweatpants is just bummy and shows immaturity

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Velvet Bat

you know theres to little about this info right? like you expect us to judge with less than a paragraph? anyways hes comfy! Leave him be. Has he tried to ever look good for you? Has he ever made any effort of any kind? and other than this date, have you? like please be fr and put more detail if you want us to truly comment

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