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How to repair the parent-child relationship after yelling

Thank you for reading 🕊️

Good job parenting every day!

When you yell and think, "I did it again."

You can even repair the parent child relationship from there 💪🏻

When you calm down and organize your feelings

Please apologize to your child or tell them "I love you."

Even just that

The child was yelled at because "I did something."

Clear reasons can be understood

It s hard to repeat the same thing.

vague anxiety and fear towards mom

It's hard to hold

If there is even one "awareness" or "relief"

Please save it and read it again later 🌱

The likes and comments are very encouraging 🤍

# Childcare

# parenting

# irritated _ mom

2025/9/17 Edited to

... Read more怒鳴った後、なかなかどうすれば良いか分からず自己嫌悪に陥ることがありますよね。私も子育て中に同じ経験をしました。でも、重要なのは怒鳴ったことを後悔し続けるのではなく、その後のフォローです。実際に私が実践して効果を感じたのは、まず気持ちが落ち着いてから子どもに素直に謝ること。そうすることで、子どもも自分の行動が怒られた理由であることを理解しやすくなりました。 そして感情を言葉にして伝えることも大切です。例えば「片づけて欲しかった」という本当の想いを伝えるだけで、子どもの心に響きます。また、怒った理由を簡単な言葉で説明すると、子どもも納得しやすくなり、同じことを繰り返さなくなりました。 さらにスキンシップや「大好きだよ」といった愛情表現を欠かさないことが、子どもの不安を和らげ自己肯定感を取り戻す一歩となります。実践は一度に全てを行う必要はありません。自分ができそうなことから、少しずつ取り入れていくことが親子関係の修復には効果的です。 このように、怒鳴った後でも具体的なステップを踏むことで、親子の信頼を深めることは十分可能です。子どもの寝顔を見たときに「またやっちゃった」と思っても、決して遅すぎることはありません。一緒に育児をがんばりましょう。

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