A Look in the Mirror
As humans, our default setting isn't exactly selflessness. We often judge ourselves by our intentions, but judge others by their actions. We can be quick to accuse without first looking in the mirror.
But Jesus calls us to live differently:
“Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets.”
Matthew 7:12 NLT
Often referred to as the “golden rule,” it’s a brilliant litmus test for discerning how to respond to people in the face of hardship, uncertainty, and pain.
Here are some ways we can apply this verse to our daily lives:
WHEN SOMEONE HURTS YOU...
Think: Have you ever hurt someone, either accidentally or intentionally? And when the mistake was made or realized, did you want to be screamed at and given a harsh consequence, or did you long for grace and a second chance?
To the extent that we forgive, we are forgiven. So what if, today, we give others the same grace, compassion, and mercy that we'd like to receive?
WHEN SOMEONE IS STRUGGLING...
When you personally experience hardships, you might seek counsel from a pastor or mentor, but you probably also want a friend who will listen and help you process. You want someone to come alongside you who can handle your honest thoughts, and help you navigate the hurt in this world.
Just as we need people to encourage us, we are also called to be that source of support to others. So today, consider what you can do to point people to God’s love and truth.
WHEN SOMEONE HAS ANNOYED YOU...
People can be irritating at times. But if you're ever considered an annoyance by somebody else, would you rather that person talk bad about you, or have patience with you? We are all works in progress and are all called to show mercy and grace.
So this week, when you’re tempted to lash out at someone requiring a little “extra” of you, or dismiss someone who’s getting on your last nerve, consider asking yourself: If I were them, what would I want?
If we want to live like Jesus, we need to do what He asks of us. And Jesus explained a key mindset in following Him—to treat others how you want to be treated.
Reflecting on Matthew 7:12, I've found that truly embracing the Golden Rule requires consistent self-awareness and empathy. It's easy to judge others by their actions, but harder to examine our own motives and behavior honestly. When someone hurts you, whether intentionally or not, responding with grace rather than anger can open doors for healing—not only for them but for your own heart. In my experience, offering forgiveness is often more freeing than holding onto resentment. One time, after a close friend upset me, I reminded myself how I’d want to be treated if I had made a mistake. Choosing patience and compassion strengthened our friendship. When others struggle, I try to remember how vulnerable I am during my own difficulties. Having someone to listen without judgment made a big difference in my life. So now, I strive to be that empathetic presence for those around me. Not everyone is ready for advice; sometimes, simply showing up and offering a kind ear is the best way to share God’s love. Dealing with annoying behavior is perhaps the biggest test of the Golden Rule. Instead of reacting impulsively, I ask myself, “If I were in their shoes, how would I want to be treated?” This simple question helps me respond with patience rather than irritation. Realizing that we all have flaws encourages me to extend the same mercy I hope to receive. Living like Jesus means actively choosing kindness, mercy, and understanding, even when it feels challenging. The Golden Rule is more than a saying—it’s a daily practice of walking in others’ shoes and reflecting God’s unconditional love in every interaction.