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The day I stopped putting myself off in my 50s

If you notice

Always at the end

Myself

Do your best

Become a matter of course

Even if you're patient

i didn't notice.

But

Up to 50's

I've lived so far

You are

I've done enough.

put yourself off.

The choice not to

i'm not running away.

From now on

Live properly

Decision

This post...

Take care of yourself

Triggered by

I would be happy if it became

Fight!

# 50 s home work

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... Read more私も50代に差し掛かった頃、長年『誰かのために頑張り続ける』ことが当たり前になっていました。仕事では責任を負い、家庭では家族の期待に応え、いつの間にか自分の気持ちを押し殺していました。 ある日、ふと自分の感情がわからなくなっていることに気付き、これではいけないと思い立ちました。自分を後回しにし続けるのは、必ずしも強さの証ではなく、時には自分を大切にすることが必要だと実感しました。 『自分の声を無視しない』という選択は、わがままでも逃げでもなく、むしろ今まで背負ってきた責任への敬意でもあります。私がそこから変わるために実践したことは、小さな自分時間を設けること、好きなことに没頭すること、そして『自分に優しくなる』という自分への約束でした。 人生はいつでも整え直せます。50代だからこそ、これからの時間をどう生きたいかを考え、勇気をもって自分を最優先にする選択ができるのです。もし同じように頑張りすぎてしまう方がいれば、この投稿が少しでも自分を大切にするきっかけになれば嬉しいです。私たちはまだまだこれから、人生を自分らしく輝かせることができるのです。ファイト!

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