MY CONTROVERSIAL OPINIONS ON PARENTING🍵🐸🍋
My opinion on parenting that will ruffle a few feathers !
Parenting overall is such a controversial topic! there so black and white handbook of the “right or wrong way to parent “ so pretty much everyone does what works for them however I feel like their are some parenting ways I just refused to display to my son !heres a list of some feel free to chime in because I’m pretty sure it’s more out there and I want to here them lol!
🌺-I don't believe in doing bare minimum parenting and holding that over your child's head as a favor like it's your job what the heck ..my child didn’t ask to be here so I’ll never throw in his face the responsibilities I take on being his mother I think this is dumb and it makes my skin boil !
🌺-I don't believe in applying standards and expectations to their kids that they can't een uphold their damn selves I get it we want our kids to be the best they can possibly be but I seen this first hand I was always so hard on myself because of my mothers expectations which often made me lose sight of what I doing it for . (Good grades ,college,jobs etc) we sometimes put this insane amount of pressure on children to succeed and loose sight at the fact that they’re indeed children !
🌺-I don't believe in dominance through fear or physical force never understood the take away from using violence. A never understood the logic of violence implements lessons.this is so wrong there so many different outlets to teach a child. And in my opinion it’s slave mentality as us black families need to break this mindset of inflicting pain were there are errors Spanking can lead to more negative relationships between parents and children.
Children who are spanked may have lower attachment security and feel less emotionally connected to their parents. As adults, they may be more likely to develop codependent relationships or continue the cycle of violence themselves.
Spanking can be traumatic for children, and memories of being spanked can cause strong feelings of anger and betrayal as adults. Children who are spanked may be more likely to develop anxiety, depression, and other mental health disorders as adults.
🌺-"you're a child you don't have no business" this is a big one CHILDREN HAVE BUSINESS. There are things that a child does not want to share & i never believed it was fair to force that on them to tell what they would rather keep to themselves. That goes alongside with children venting and confiding in their parents and they go tell everyone what they said. NOT FAIR!
🌺-“if anybody should have an attitude it should be me “ WRONG AGAIN although kids are young their still title human and should be treated as such with respect who are you to tell someone that their emotions are invalid because their age or the things you do for them this is so stupid to me because emotions are crucial at this age ! They need to know how to regulate them and identify these newfound emotions and most important how to manage them !
🌺-respect is given not earned , I don’t agree with this as a parent I surely didn’t agree with this as a kid I didn’t see the point of respecting someone who is deliberately disrespecting me because I’m a child !
🌺-ANYBODY can get cut off , family or not you don’t have ANY obligation to keep a toxic family member in your life . If someone is detrimental to your mental health,then you should kick them out your life ! allot of people allow allot from family but not me I’m not putting up with nothing I don’t want to it’s self care ! We often find ourselves watering dead plants and stringing people along just because their family!
🌺-Stop yelling at your kids for falling or making mistakes. No sane person will call a baby stupid for learning how to speak or learning how to walk.So, if they fail a test or struggle in school, it doesn't always mean that they don't care or they are dumb. Everyone learns at a different pace. Some need extra attention, and some are super sharp.
There are no perfect children, so don't compare them to your friends or cousins' kids, it's not a competition.
🌺-A parents' role is to teach by example, we clean the house together, children are not your slaves to do all your chores.
🌺-Children have a right to speak their minds without fear.Children's bodies belong to them, ask for permission to hold their hand, hug them, etc. if they say no please respect their wishes. You don't 'control' a child, you raise/ parent them.
🌺-Kids don't need to finish all that food. Letting them learn to recognise when they are sated and then adjusting the amount of food served is a better life skill than overeating just because you as the adult miscalculated how much a child would eat!
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Parenting is a topic that provokes diverse opinions, often divided between traditionalists and progressive thinkers. Many parents find themselves navigating between established guidelines and personal beliefs. In recent discussions, terms like 'gentle parenting' have emerged, promoting empathy over punishment, which aligns with my stance on avoiding fear-based discipline. Additionally, research has shown that positive reinforcement encourages emotional growth and supports healthy parent-child relationships. Many parents have been advocating for children’s rights to express their feelings openly, emphasizing the importance of respect for a child's autonomy. Whether it’s about their choice to share their thoughts or managing their emotional responses, creating a safe space for children is crucial in the modern parenting landscape. Furthermore, mental health awareness has increased, prompting parents to reassess their roles, ensuring they do not perpetuate cycles of trauma. Toxic family dynamics are highlighted in many discussions, emphasizing the necessity to evaluate relationships for the sake of mental well-being. This reflects a significant shift—parents are beginning to cut ties with family members who negatively impact their lives or their child's environment. Moreover, the concept of recognizing a child's hunger cues rather than enforcing clean plates is becoming a popular topic among child nutritionists. This method not only empowers children but also fosters a healthy relationship with food, encouraging them to listen to their bodies instead of adhering strictly to adult-set rules. As parenting evolves, so does the dialogue surrounding it, challenging outdated methods and fostering discussions that promote emotional intelligence and self-care.
Your baby is so adorable. One thing that I don’t really like that parents make their babies do is kiss everyone bye, babies always want to kiss on the lips, whenever my cousin was born I always just gave him hugs.