Church, can we talk? 👀 Modesty matters—but policing women’s bodies is NOT holiness.
I’ve been completely covered and still had blankets placed over me because I was considered “too shapely” or “a distraction.” Sometimes what we call modesty is really insecurity, comparison, jealousy or envy.
And if we’re going to preach stewardship of the body, let’s have the WHOLE conversation—including gluttony, obesity, health and self-control. Don’t scrutinize a woman’s curves while ignoring every other area of bodily stewardship.
Teach modesty without body shaming. Conviction should be biblical and consistent.
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From my personal experience attending various church gatherings, I've noticed a troubling trend of how modesty is sometimes enforced, especially towards women. It’s often framed around covering up or hiding any “distractions,” yet this approach can lead to feelings of shame and humiliation rather than spiritual growth. One time, despite dressing modestly, I was still singled out and had a blanket placed over me during a service because my figure was deemed inappropriate. This not only felt unfair but also confused me about the true meaning of holiness. I believe modesty should be about honoring ourselves and God in a way that respects our whole being, not just policing appearances. It’s vital for church communities to talk openly about all aspects of bodily stewardship, which includes health habits, emotional wellness, and self-control—not just outward looks. Focusing only on women's bodies creates an imbalance and can foster unhealthy comparisons and even jealousy, which contradicts Christian love and unity. An honest and biblically consistent conversation about faith and the body calls for compassion and understanding, encouraging personal responsibility without judgment. Modesty should be taught as a positive practice of self-respect and reverence, not as a tool to shame or control others. This approach helps women feel valued for who they are inside and strengthens their relationship with God. Incorporating this holistic view of stewardship means also addressing issues like gluttony and obesity equally, without singling anyone out unfairly. Only by doing so can churches become safe spaces that nurture faith and promote true modesty, free from body shaming or exclusion.