Let’s Break Up.

maybe you guys read about my break up story from my previous post but today, let me encourage you guys to break up.

what? who does that? are you trying to stir shit? nah, let’s read on shall we?

i’m pretty sure most of yall (esp those in a long term rs) always hear your friends and family persuading you to ‘work things out within the rs’. ‘don’t think about breaking up!’ ‘everything can be settled as long as you guys work towards it.’

don’t get me wrong. that makes sense to me as well but only if the situation does not involve breaking one’s trust, which is the foundation of love.

i would consider my partner low-key cheated in my previous rs. he blamed it on losing feelings but eyes wandering, taking the initiative to talk to someone he finds attractive (without the need to do so) and wondering how it is like to have given his number to someone who hit on him in the gym? i consider that emotional cheating.

just wanna ask how many of yall feel that if you’re me, going through whatever i stated above and you can still trust that this man will not cheat in the future? that he will love u wholeheartedly? that your fundamental trust in him is still intact? or that you can still build up that broken trust?

yes, maybe manymany years of him convincing you with his words and actions but i have recently came to the conclusion that it is easier and better for me to build a rs with a new person than to rebuild the trust i had with an old one. we all heard of that saying: once the trust is broken, it’s like shattered glass. you can piece it back but scars remain.

being someone as sensitive as myself, i can tell you what i went through. he cfms that he still loves me yet i was not convinced. i desperately needed evidence to show me that he was still the one for me. the one who used to love me so much, i can confidently throw him into a pool of women and i know he’ll come back for me.

everyday i doubt whether he’s still looking. everyday i worry whether im pretty enough for his eyes to stop wandering. everyday i feel my confidence dipping. all of these because the trust was broken.

i guess what im saying is, if you’re in a similar situation as myself and you know that you’re only holding on because:

1. you guys fundamentally have no other issues

2. you guys have been tgt for sometime

3. it’s just that ONE TIME where he did sth to break your trust

ending this and building it with someone new is easier and you can go further & stronger. it only takes one instance to break that trust but you need so much to build it up.

are u still holding on because of love or because of the memories yall had?

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