A part of me ❤️
There's part of my story, I never shared. Be sure I've had more than my share of trip the light fantastic (fame, no check.) So a post Tristan N. Vaught about their identity and transition hit.
Recently, I was questioned why I went to trans event or Transform . No doubt I'm an ally, often thought of as trans. I consider that a blessing although I think I'm what's called adjacent.
So for those who care about history, wonder why we fight...here's my short story.
Just prior to my starting my junior year (first year on Kent State campus) I just ended a relationship with a girlfriend. I knew I was a mess and it was time to do the work.
So I went for free counseling there and asked a grad student what I should do or if it was possible to change. I remember his face as he said "Michael it's took you 20 yrs to be one way it will take you that or longer to become something else." Best advice I ever had. Net, accept yourself and make peace with it.
That was not so easy then particularly cause the ex told my roommate. He went into a full panic and told the resident manager. So my roommate was moved out and I had to have a meeting with the manager.
Please never doubt there is a queer spirit that speaks to us and protects us. Turns out the guy was an middle aged "closet case."
He tells me "we have to be quiet, but if anyone gives you trouble come see him." Then that was a whole lot as I only had one queer friend on campus.
While nothing else dramatic other the boys sending me a pot of mums, I went on to see another shrink who called herself Dr. Ginny.
Knowing my anxiety and general messiness, she said "Michael go outside and lay in the sun." Great advice. Today I think it's called "touching grass."
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PS...Be who you are, there's support out there.
Navigating personal identity and being part of the LGBTQ+ community—whether as a trans person or an ally—can be a profound journey filled with both obstacles and growth. Many people find themselves questioning, evolving, and seeking acceptance not only from others but from within. Attending events such as trans gatherings or spaces like Transform can offer invaluable support and connection, fostering a sense of belonging and understanding. Being considered “adjacent” or an ally in the trans community often means listening deeply, learning, and actively supporting those undergoing transition or fighting for trans rights. Allies play a crucial role by challenging misunderstandings and advocating for respect and equality. At times, allies may face their own complex feelings and struggles—especially when mistaken identities or societal assumptions come into play. Counseling and mental health support are essential tools that can help people explore their identities, cope with anxiety, and develop self-compassion. The story shared highlights how advice to accept oneself and find peace can be life-changing, reminding us that transformation—emotional or identity-based—takes time and patience. The concept of “queer spirit” or a supportive community that protects and uplifts is a powerful reminder that none of us are alone. Even when societal pressures and stigma pose challenges, having at least one trusted confidant or friend can provide immense strength. Experiencing gestures of kindness, like receiving a pot of mums or simple encouragement to ‘go outside and lay in the sun,’ underscores the importance of small acts of care that nurture our wellbeing. Ultimately, being who you are authentically is vital. Support networks, whether formal events or informal friendships, offer a space to express identity freely and find others who understand your story. From history to present day, the fight for trans rights continues, driven by sharing stories and standing together. This ongoing journey reminds us to be patient with ourselves and continually seek support when needed. There is a community ready to embrace and help everyone be their true selves.
