Entertaining the wrong man may seem fulfilling, but it comes with consequences. Just because he is your preference does not mean he is the one, and just because he pursues you does not mean God chose him for you.
Lusting after a man because of his money, appearance, or height is your problem; none of the above will determine what type of man he is. You need a man with character, standards, and strength, not the one society expects you to have.
Stop sleeping with men, maintain your purity, and learn the true meaning of relationships and marriage.
Relationships and marriage is to fulfil purpose and grow together; if this is not your goal for dating then you need to continue to work on yourself.
Wait on God, and the man he chooses for you will be determined by your needs rather than your preferences. A man who would rather shack up than get married is not someone God will ever send your way.
In my own journey, I found that focusing solely on a man's appearance or external qualities often led to disappointment. It wasn’t until I shifted my perspective to value the inner qualities—his character, integrity, and commitment—that I began to experience more fulfilling relationships. One important lesson I learned is the significance of patience, especially when it comes to serious commitments like marriage. For example, if a man wants to be with you casually but avoids discussing marriage or long-term plans, it’s a warning sign that he may not be the right partner. Maintaining personal boundaries and purity can be challenging in today’s society, where casual relationships are often normalized. However, choosing to honor yourself and your values can actually lead to deeper connections. Waiting on God, or whatever your personal belief may be, can provide clarity about what you truly need versus what you think you want. This process often helps realign expectations and prevents settling for less than you deserve. Relationship and marriage are more than just romantic ideals—they are meant for mutual growth, shared purpose, and building a life together. When both partners prioritize these goals, the foundation is stronger. I encourage anyone to reflect on their reasons for dating and to really ask if their pursuit aligns with long-term growth or immediate gratification. Recognizing that a man who prefers to cohabit without commitment is unlikely to be the right one can save a lot of heartache. Ultimately, investing time in self-development and holding out for a partner who meets your needs in character, not just preference, creates a more meaningful and lasting relationship.