Move on

Understand that in this moment, we don't want to hear consolation words that seem too beautiful, but we want to * * practical and effective management * *

Here are some steps you can try:

# # 1.Allow yourself to "feel" fully (Deadline)

* * Truth to admit: * * You will still be in pain, and it will take time.

* * * Define a "liberating moment": * * Allow yourself to fully "plunge" into sadness, anger, or regret * * in a limited time frame * * For example, allow yourself to cry, listen to sad music, or vent your feelings * * for only 30 minutes * * per day.

* * * Beyond that time: * * Pull yourself back to your current activities.

* * Don't let the feeling last all day * *

# # 2.Decisively disconnected (No Contact Rule)

This is the most important thing to heal yourself and to do.

* * No hesitation * *

* * * Blocking or Hiding: * * Unfollowing / Blocking All His / Her Social Media Channels * * Temporary * * (Facebook, Instagram, Line) Seeing the move will cause you to loop back to the same place repeatedly.

* * * Delete phone number: * * Not because you'll forget, but to * * cut the choice * * not to let you call or text when you're weak.

* * * Store: * * Keep everything that is a souvenir that makes you miss out of sight. Go in a box and keep it where you can't see it.

* * * Avoid Places: * * Abstain from Places Where You Usually Meet, or Places with Shared Memories * * In The First Period * *

# # 3.Create a "new normality" in everyday life

Because your routine used to have him / her, now you have to fill that gap with something else.

* * * Set small goals: * * Focus on things to do in real life, such as work, study, or taking care of yourself simply * * "Shower, brush, and dress" * * * For every day, it's a small victory.

* * * Start a new activity: * * Find a short class (cooking, exercising, learning a language) or start a hobby that requires concentration. * * It's important to do it yourself * * Not an activity that used to be done together.

* * * Financial Focus: * * Let's start organizing finance or setting savings goals. This is a great way to turn pain into tangible positive energy.

# # 4.Look for "inappropriate" reasons instead of "good things that used to be."

Heartbreak time, the brain often filters and remembers but * * good times * *, which hurts you. Try to change your perspective.

* * * Create a list: * * Write a list of drawbacks (that cannot be compatible) or reasons why this relationship * * must end * * (incompatibility, unsolvable problems, differences).

* * * Memorize the truth: * * Whenever thoughts start to loop back to old pleasures * *, pull this list up, read * * to remind yourself that this relationship is really in trouble and that ending is the right decision (despite the pain).

Remember that * * the feeling doesn't last forever * * You will gradually get better and better, and what you do best now is to * * take care of your life * * to get back strong as soon as possible.# moveon # moveon until orbiting meet # Drug sign with lemon8 # Lemon 8 Howtoo