Boyfriend Said I’m “Too Loose”… I’m Hurt

My boyfriend told me I’m “too loose,” and honestly… I’m really hurt. I don’t even know why he felt the need to say something like that. It was just embarrassing and made me feel awful about myself.

I keep replaying it in my head and it’s messing with me more than I expected.

Has anyone else had a partner say something that cut way too deep? What did you do?

#AskLemon8 #letschat #boyfriend #relationship #GirlTalk

2025/11/15 Edited to

... Read moreIt's really painful when someone you care about says something that cuts deep, especially in a relationship where trust and respect should be foundational. Being told you are "too loose" can affect your self-esteem and body confidence significantly. Many people face hurtful remarks from their partners, and it can be confusing and undermining. If you've experienced a comment like this, it's important to acknowledge your feelings—they are valid and understandable. Remember, your worth isn’t determined by such remarks. Open communication is key; consider discussing how the comment made you feel with your boyfriend if you feel safe doing so. Sometimes, people say thoughtless things that reflect their own insecurities or misunderstandings. Additionally, seek support from friends, trusted communities, or forums where others have shared similar experiences. For many, connecting with others who have been hurt by insensitive comments has been healing and empowering. Maintaining a positive self-image involves practicing self-care and affirming your value beyond physical attributes. If the issue persists or affects your mental health, consider consulting a counselor or therapist who can help you work through these emotions. Remember, a healthy relationship is built on mutual respect and kindness. Comments that deliberately hurt or embarrass are red flags, and your feelings matter. You deserve to be with someone who uplifts you rather than causes pain. If you’re looking for advice, #AskLemon8 and #GirlTalk communities can be supportive spaces to share and hear others’ stories. Many have navigated similar experiences, learned how to set boundaries, and grown stronger through it. You are not alone, and healing is possible.

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Misty🌛Newrain82

girl u should have said u feel loose to him bc he's 2 little for you. now time to move on to the next one.

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Oh hell no hunny his dick is just too little!!!!!! Dump that mofo

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