There's a pain in my heart that never leaves me
There's a pain in my heart that never leaves and it only hurts when you're near. I try to be understanding. I try to be patient, but I just can't do it anymore. I just want us to get along. I just want you to see me, but actually see me for who I am...because you don't know me at all despite being the reason why I am here.
I guess I can say the same when it comes to you...that I don't know you either. I just know what you're willing to show me. Heart as cold as ice, never caring about others & their feelings. Even then, I still put you before anyone else, because you're all I have left to call "family."
Yet, you gaslight me...make me feel like shit and you're the reason why my self esteem is so low. Why I go trying to find love in the arms of the wrong men. You're the reason why I hate myself and why I question if I'm such a horrible person after all because that's how you make me feel.
You're the one that constantly reminds me how I will probably go to hell when I die, and why I no longer fear dying...maybe because I also feel like that'll happen to me. Growing up I watched as my friends had loving families, and I couldn't relate. Even now I can't.
I long for something that I know I'll never have, and instead of making me feel better, you remind me why no one will ever truly love me. Because I'm too difficult for love, but you made me this way. You made me this way, and now you hate it, hate me at times. All I ever wanted was for you to understand me despite our differences, and the part that hurts is the realization that you never will.
I think what hurts is that I don't want to be this way with you, but you give me no choice. You make things so hard and never take the blame. Everything is always my fault and always will be. Your lack for accountability upsets me so much, because I can at least admit that I'm wrong at times and apologize and yet you can't.
You should be the one there for me at the end of the day, if no one else is...and yet, you make me feel more alone than anyone else does. Which is why I cry during our arguments, not just because I'm upset but because I know that I'll always be alone and the loneliness is what kills me on the inside.
Dealing with consistent emotional pain caused by family conflicts can be an overwhelming and isolating experience. Many people find themselves in situations where they feel unseen or misunderstood by those who should be closest to them. When family members evoke feelings of coldness or emotional neglect, it can deeply affect self-esteem and overall mental health. It is common for individuals feeling this way to try to seek love and validation outside the family circle, sometimes through unhealthy relationships, which can compound the pain. Recognizing the patterns of gaslighting and emotional abuse in family dynamics is a crucial step towards healing. Gaslighting—where one person manipulates another into doubting their own feelings or reality—causes confusion and can contribute to a sense of worthlessness. Being constantly blamed and denied any accountability by a family member heightens feelings of loneliness and despair, making it difficult to maintain self-love and hope. One vital aspect of moving forward is developing boundaries to protect emotional wellbeing. While it can be painful to accept that certain family relationships may not improve, establishing limits helps preserve mental health. It’s important to seek support from trusted friends, counselors, or support groups who can provide validation and guidance. Additionally, people in these situations should consider practices that foster self-compassion and forgiveness—not necessarily forgiving the hurtful behavior immediately but cultivating kindness toward oneself. Journaling, creative expression, and mindfulness can aid in processing emotions and reducing the internalized pain. Understanding that one is not alone in feeling isolated by family troubles may bring comfort. Many others have experienced similar struggles and have found empowerment through building new communities based on mutual respect and care. Healing often involves gradual steps toward self-acceptance and reclaiming one's identity outside negative familial influences. This journey is difficult and unique for every individual, but prioritizing emotional safety and seeking healthy connections can gradually alleviate the persistent heartache and isolation described. Remember, while family can shape us, it does not define our worth or our capacity for love and happiness.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😥🥰😪🫶🏿👀