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Let’s stop calling it “emotionally unavailable”

Let’s stop calling it “emotionally unavailable” when what we really mean is he doesn’t want you.

He’s not bad at texting. He replies to everyone else.

He’s not scared of commitment. He just doesn’t want to commit to you.

He’s not “going through stuff.” He’s just not making you a priority.

When a man wants you — actually wants you — you won’t be confused. You won’t be waiting. You won’t be making excuses for him.

He’ll show up. He’ll be clear. He’ll make time.

Stop giving him credit for potential. Start paying attention to what he’s actually doing.

The right man won’t leave you guessing. 🖤

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