true. my ex and I were together 3.5 years, the last 2 years of that relationship was me trying to work on myself and get us to stop fighting and grow together meanwhile I was working at our growth alone. always told him that relationships show you things you may not of known about yourself before, some being negative and that we both need to work on those so we can be a happy healthy couple and it was always in one ear out the other. ended up leaving and it was the hardest thing I’ve had to do, but you can’t destroy yourself trying to build someone else up and have them grow, they have to want it for themselves