Years ago, I worked in a hospital corporate office. We didn’t treat patients, but we had to train on emergency procedures—basic CPR, evacuation drills, all that.
During the CPR training, my boss (who was otherwise a decent guy) suddenly said, “I would never give CPR to another man. That’s too feminine.”
The instructor literally blinked at him like she couldn’t believe the words that came out of his mouth. She even said, “You understand CPR saves lives, right?” He doubled down: “Yeah, but still. I’m not doing mouth-to-mouth on a guy.”
Brother… it’s literally saving someone’s life. Not flirting. Not romance. Just survival.
What’s the wildest “that’s too feminine” moment you’ve heard?
... Read moreIn many communities, outdated ideas about gender roles still influence behaviors in unexpected ways—even in critical situations like administering CPR. The notion that performing CPR, particularly the mouth-to-mouth component, is ‘too feminine’ reflects a deep-seated misunderstanding of both gender and emergency response. CPR (Cardiopulmonary Resuscitation) is a vital life-saving skill designed to maintain circulation and breathing until professional help arrives. It is gender-neutral in its purpose and necessity.
This misconception can have dangerous consequences. If individuals hesitate or refuse to give CPR because they view it as conflicting with their ideas of masculinity or femininity, it delays potentially lifesaving interventions. The key is awareness and education. CPR is about survival—not flirtation or romance. Encouraging everyone, regardless of gender, to learn and feel comfortable performing CPR is essential for community health.
Moreover, research shows that immediate bystander CPR can double or even triple a victim's chance of survival during cardiac arrest. Overcoming social stigmas and misconceptions about gender roles can empower more people to take immediate action without hesitation.
This story also highlights the importance of addressing toxic masculinity and gender stereotypes that discourage men from showing vulnerability or providing care. These restrictions harm not only those needing help but also those held back from acting out of unfounded beliefs about masculinity or femininity.
By sharing experiences like these, communities can foster conversations that dismantle harmful stereotypes. Training sessions can integrate discussions about gender biases to remind participants that saving a life is an act of bravery and humanity, not gender expression.
Ultimately, CPR is a universal skill vital for all. Ensuring everyone understands that emergency help transcends gender will save more lives and promote a more caring, inclusive society.
I don’t know any men personally who don’t do this, but I’ve seen men online say they won’t wash their butt because it’s feminine or “gay.” It’s really gross.
I don’t know any men personally who don’t do this, but I’ve seen men online say they won’t wash their butt because it’s feminine or “gay.” It’s really gross.