My husband not respect me in my pregnancy
I’m pregnant and have food aversions, but one of my favorite dishes (the few I can eat) was made for me by an acquaintance to cheer me up. My husband picked it up today… and supposedly tossed it. He said her house smelled weird, had cat hair, and the food was “unsanitary.” I’ve been to her house plenty of times—it’s clean.
I told him he didn’t have to eat it, but he said I couldn’t either, so he threw it away 😡. When I got upset, he “offered” I could eat it from the trash because it was still in the box…
And then he admitted he didn’t even throw it away, just hid it to see my reaction...he didn't respect me at all. But i'm pregnant now, what should i do?
Pregnancy is a time when emotional support from your partner is crucial, especially as you navigate physical changes like food aversions. When a partner dismisses your feelings or undermines your preferences, it can add significant stress during an already sensitive period. It's important to acknowledge that your husband’s actions—tossing your favorite dish and suggesting you eat from the trash—are not only disrespectful but potentially damaging to your emotional health. Effective communication is key. Try expressing to your husband clearly how his actions made you feel without placing blame, to open a dialogue about respecting your needs. Sometimes partners may not understand the emotional and physical challenges pregnancy brings, so calmly explaining your perspective can build empathy. Setting boundaries about food and respect during your pregnancy is essential. You might want to discuss specific ways he can support you with your pregnancy-related dietary restrictions and emotional needs. If disrespectful behavior continues, seeking external support such as counseling or involving a trusted family member might help mediate the situation. Taking care of your mental health is equally important. Surround yourself with supportive friends or communities like #AskLemon8 or #letschat where you can share your experience and gain advice from others who understand pregnancy struggles. Remember, feeling respected and cared for helps reduce stress and promotes a healthier pregnancy for both you and your baby.
honestly tell him not to lie to you again like that. tell him how a pregnant person's hormones are WAY different than before we got pregnant and that situation could've been WAY worse than what it was and it wouldn't be you "overreacting" it would be genuine feelings. I know when I could barely eat anything and my man brought home something he knew I would eat I was sooo happy about it. and if I didn't want it when I got it (even if I asked him to get it) we'd go out and get something else together and either is let him eat whatever I asked for or save it for later. that was pretty disrespectful of him to lie to your face like that especially try to take something away that you KNOW you won't gag or throw up right after eating it and stuff. if he doesn't know how hard it is for you to keep stuff down then make it more noticeable about the things you can't even stand to look at and gag at them (even if you don't feel like you have to gag).