Awkward with my mother-in-law because of... are we too petty?

Before, we have a husband to live a normal life. At home, he has a mother-in-law and sister-in-law. We get married. The stomach is normal. When the younger brother comes out, he helps to raise with the husband. The mother-in-law looks a little bit. Because he has not raised a child for 25 years. My sister-in-law is the youngest. And that makes us not want to help our mother-in-law because he brought water for our child to eat at the beginning of the first month and followed with a stepmother like this, it is normal. So we do not want to raise much. And most of us have to help our husband work. Because alone, our husband can not do the company alone, must have an assistant, whose assistant has just resigned. And only we know the job and it is urgent, so have to help each other. We do not sleep, the husband does not sleep. The problem of marriage is bland and stressful. So we agreed to hire a nanny to help. At first it was ok. We swapped the nanny. But after the nanny has grown up, we give the nanny 24 hours to watch. 2 nannies because we think that if one nanny is on leave, then that day we have to work to work in the province urgently, then there must be someone to swap. And 2 nannies will lighten the burden of doing housework for us too. The nanny salary is not too good. If exchanged for work, then get more than just hiring a nanny 30 thousand.

But...

Our problem is that our house is 2 floors. The way up the 2nd floor is quite steep and there are many stairs. Before reaching the 2nd floor, there is no island. His mother-in-law, when he wakes up late, likes to carry the baby to walk up the stairs to us and her husband and often tells us to look at the children. It is uncomfortable. Do we feel like this? It feels like disturbing to rest with our husband. Because we sometimes take the children to sleep with and just drop off the bottom, but the mother-in-law brought the children up again. We do not know what he thinks in his heart, but my ex-husband's mother curses us to listen to the gossip. We wake up early to see the children. Children sleep late at night, watch often, come to sleep with some, watch milk, eat food, bathe children, or turn on the CCTV camera, but the mother-in-law always says like, come to see the child, do not trust the nanny very much, will be like in the news. Actually, there was a time when he told us to watch the child alone, do not have to hire, and do not have to go anywhere at home. My husband said that if there is no nanny, does not rest, and the mother does not travel, do not drink, do not drink, help us watch the grandchildren, until the mother-in-law allows to hire his mother 50 late, is the mother-in-law, when we are pregnant, is on a night trip, and socialize with friends very drunk, almost every day. I never was, but it's forbidden, but I'm not really quitting.# Mother-in-law problem # lemon 8 diary#