please not THAT… 🙄🌈

Attending a sapphic live show is often a powerful and affirming experience for members of the #wlw and #lesbian communities. These events provide a unique space to celebrate queer identity, connect with others who share similar experiences, and enjoy performances that resonate personally. However, issues arise when individuals outside the community—particularly straight men—begin to act disruptively during these shows. From my personal experience attending such events, I’ve noticed that while most audiences respect the environment, occasionally some straight men behave in ways that make the event uncomfortable for the intended community. This includes talking loudly during performances, interrupting the flow of the show, or engaging in behaviors that feel like they diminish the safe and welcoming atmosphere. Such disruptions can unintentionally undermine the solidarity and celebration meant to be cultivated at these events. I believe it’s crucial for organizers and attendees alike to establish ground rules promoting respect and awareness. Simple steps such as clear communication about event expectations, having visible staff or volunteers to manage disruptions, and fostering allyship can make a big difference. If you’re a straight man attending sapphic live shows, it’s important to listen, observe, and honor the space as primarily one for queer celebration. Being an ally means not just attending but actively supporting the community by showing respect and ensuring that your presence uplifts rather than overshadows the voices meant to shine. Ultimately, turning these live shows into fully inclusive, joyous occasions requires conscious effort and mutual respect. Sapphic events are a vital platform for visibility and empowerment, and everyone invited should help protect that spirit by embracing thoughtful and courteous behavior.