Study’s show only 8% achieve their goals New Years Resolutions. 80% fail many quit within the first 2 months.

But you’re not a statistic.

I’ll actually start by asking Who are you exactly?

I wrestled with that question for a long time. & if you’re like me and you don’t have an answer I want to share with you a story that doesn’t abide by the principles or advice of the people who have the life you want would tell you. They must’ve forgotten what it felt like to start from day one. If it wasn’t for the hope of a new beginning that new years brought me I would have never stepped into the calling god had over my life.

I was like the majority. Afraid. I had no money. Two full time jobs. No accountability partner and no real assurance that I would not be part of that 80% like I was every year before. Looking back the difference between the people who fail and the people who succeed are now so obvious.

What I understand now is that most people don’t fail because they don’t want change badly enough. Most people fail because of superficial goals no planning and setting themselves up for failure with unrealistic expectations as to what it takes to get it.

I remember 2019 like it was yesterday. After a 18 hour shift working two jobs trying to run two pennys together to pay rent. I wasn’t outside partying because I didn’t have the funds!! I put my daughter to sleep. I remember falling to my knees and just being real with God.

I admitted how broken I felt, how much I hated who I was becoming, how angry and stubborn and tired I was. I told Him I couldn’t keep doing this on my own anymore. I was trying to fix things only He could fix. And I meant it when I said I was so sick of myself that I was willing to let it all go.

That year wasn’t at all inspiring. It was scrappy. I only focused on what was in front of me. I recorded and documented everything along the way. My only promise was to not give up on myself. Even when I failed I showed up the next day. Which meant I had to forgive myself a lot. I worked on forgiveness and tried to switch my perspective I wanted to understand and cultivate a real loving relationship with God and he started to show me more of who I was in him & I realized I was a lot better with him than I was without. I treated failure like feedback and learned from mistakes rather than abandoning the goal.

Personally I no longer make New Year’s resolutions in the traditional sense but it was really important that Mon’Tee 5 years ago did. I actually stated my New Year’s resolutions 3 months ago. Instead, I view year-end as an opportunity to review what I believe went well in life and work, what didn’t, and what exceeded expectations in both my personal and professional life. I also sought out outside help for bigger goals from people who had skills I didn’t but needed desperately. I’ve observed that the process of generating meaningful and lasting change can be deeply challenging unless you understand why and how you operate the way you do your habits, beliefs, core values, fears, and mindsets. Without this level of self-awareness, even the most carefully crafted resolutions are likely to fail.

So if you’re setting goals right now, don’t start with “what should I do.”

Start with “who do I need to become.”

Get clear on why you want it & I challenge you to do the soul searching until you can Identify the reasons you believe you can’t have it.

Pick fewer things. Give them your full attention. Commit. Track. Stay ESPECIALLY when it’s uncomfortable. Don’t punish yourself when you mess up. Treat yourself like someone you love and who you’re willing to go to war for. Create small rewards along the way.

I’m sharing this because I see women every day who are capable of more than they allow themselves to step into. And maybe this is the moment you stop becoming a statistic and start creating your own personal path to freedom and liberation.