A child may forget every toy, but will not forget who is always on his side. 🥹

Secure Attachment is the best gift parents can give their children.

If someone asks Ma Mee...

"Which gift do you want to give your child the most?"

The answer is not expensive toys, not famous clothes or the best schools.

But a Secure Attachment, or "stable bond."

Because this will become the foundation of your heart, brain and relationship for the rest of your life.

What is Secure Attachment?

Secure Attachment is a relationship that makes a child feel

"When I want to, my parents will be here."

Doesn't mean parents have to carry their children all the time or do everything for them.

It means responding to your child's needs warmly, consistently and predictably.

When you cry, someone comforts you.

When you're scared, someone hugs.

When you're glad, someone's happy.

When you're sorry, someone listens.

These small experiences will gradually build a belief in your child's heart that

"The world is safe, and I always have people ready."

Why is Secure Attachment important?

The concept of Secure Attachment was developed by John Bowlby and confirmed by Mary Ainsworth's research, which found that

Children with a strong attachment to their caregivers are more likely to

* Dare to learn and explore new things

* Better control your emotions

* Self-confident

* Build good relationships with others.

* Better deal with stress

* Less vulnerable to mental health problems in the long run.

Because when a child knows that he has a Secure Base, he dares to go out and learn the world and know that he can always come back to his parents when he feels unsafe.

How does Secure Attachment improve your brain?

In the first three years of your life, your brain grew the fastest.

Every time a parent hugs, comforts, talks or smiles, answers a child.

Your brain is building a network of neuronal connections.

Warm and consistent responses, also help the stress management system function appropriately, reduce stress hormone secretion in the face of frightening events, and promote the development of the part of the brain involved in learning, memory, and emotional regulation.

Simply put,

Consistent love doesn't just create good feelings, it also creates your brain.

Secure Attachment doesn't mean indulgence.

Many people worry that

"Hold often. The baby will be carried."

"Comfort often. You'll be overbearing."

But research evidence does not support this belief.

Responding to your needs is not your will.

Because young children still can't plan or cry to manipulate adults, as many people understand.

Embracing, comforting, and responding appropriately is to help your brain learn to manage emotions and create a sense of security.

At the same time, Secure Attachment is not meant to have no boundaries.

Parents can set rules, teach discipline, and say "no" with warmth and respect for their children.

How do parents create Secure Attachments?

Not necessarily the perfect parent.

But it's parents who are "consistently with their children."

Small things that can be done every day, such as

* Hug the baby often

* Look in the eye when talking to your child

* Smile answered when he smiled

* Answer your voice

* Soothe when you cry

* Play with the ball without catching the phone

* Listen to your feelings

* Sorry when you're wrong

* Repair relationships after conflict.

None of them need money.

But every verse produces great results for your life.

What if we can't do it?

No parent responds to their child 100% all the time.

Everyone has a tired day.

Have a day of frustration

Had a bad response day.

The important thing is not perfection.

But is to go back and hug the child

Go back and talk.

Go back to apologize

And make you realize

"No matter what happens, parents still love you."

Relationship Repair is part of the creation of Secure Attachment as well.

What you will remember for the rest of your life.

You may not remember

What did the first toy look like?

How much does a cart cost?

Or wear what brand of clothes?

But what your heart will remember is

When you sing... someone comforts you.

When scared... someone hugs.

Time is tired... there are people next door.

That's what Secure Attachment means.

The most precious gift.

And it may be something a parent can only give their child once, but it will carry their child for the rest of their lives. ❤️

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