4 Mindset "mental armor" for people who can't go anywhere.

4 Mindset "Mental Armor" (for people who can't go anywhere)

If you still have to live, your heart must survive! Here's how to retune your brain:

1.Change status: Look at him as a "V.I.P. client," not a "fan" at work time.

The problem is that you mix the expectations of a life partner (who needs to build, save) with work time.

How to think: Cut out the fan mode. Think of us as "professional employees" and they are "customers with a lot of things."

Results: When they press for work, they respond like "Yes, yes, boss" (in mind, think: the end of the work is over), do not use complaints about work to eat personal relationships, and do not mix personal frustration with the work.

2. Money matters: Use the spell "fuck" (with his money) but "strict" (with our money).

This is the sore spot. Complaining until buying new things.

How to Think: Stop being the "auditor" of his life if the money is not the money you have the right to decide..."His money, his story, his karma."

Action: When he complains about not having money, listen to his left ear through his right ear (sympathetic face, but in his heart off the switch), don't get in, and more importantly, don't gouge his own flesh. If he can buy luxuries, it means he has his way out. You just take responsibility for yourself to be the best enough.

3. Create a private "bunker" (even in the same room)

24 hours together is hell. Humans need space.

How to Think: Separating, not giving up love, but "to the breath."

Action: Put on headphones, listen to podcasts, go for a one-hour walk a day, or have a small corner that is your world alone. When he is in his world (playing mobile / watching things), you have to be in your world. Don't keep your eyes fixed on him all the time.

4. Stay for the "Hidden Agenda Day."

This is the most important thing! That you have nowhere to go "now does not mean that you will not have forever.

How to Think: Turning the Feeling of "Conscious" into "Preparedness"

Actions: Spend time here, "take a subject," learn a job, collect a portfolio, secretly learn online, develop skills, or start collecting a small secret fund without him knowing.

Target: Tell yourself, "I will be patient here to serve as a ladder to a better place in the future."

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