Secrets in the shadows

🏠 Chapter 3: The Shadow Self Secrets

[Embracing the Shadow: Unboxing the Unseen]

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As we try to "Unbox" ourselves, one of the things we often encounter and want to close the box back as quickly as possible...Our own "shadow," sir. 🌑

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Shadow Self is the part of the self that we judge as "bad," "uncute," or "unacceptable." So we quickly stuffed it into the deepest part of our hearts and pretended it didn't exist.

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"We cannot really be free if we continue to war against our own shadows."

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📍 Exploring the Shadows: What Are You Hiding?

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Often these shadows are not born of evil, but are made to survive when we are young, so that we continue to be recognized as a knot.# Unlock stranded lives:

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🟦 Shadow 1: Spelled Anger

We are taught that "good children must not be angry," so we hide our anger until we become suppressors that explode at a time when they shouldn't.

🟦 Shadow 2: Embarrassing Weakness

We are taught "to be strong," so we hide our regrets behind a strong mask, so that there is no room for tenderness.

🟦 Shadow 3: The Stranded Demand

Some dreams that are told by adults are so "ridiculous" that we have to secretly hide that passion in a dark corner.

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🔓 The power of accepting shadows.

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The more we put pressure on the shadow, the greater the pressure inside, and it explodes in the form of stress, disease, or an uncontrollable emotional explosion.

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💎 The Heart of Unboxed: Taking a Child Home is not a smiling Child, but a loving and understanding embrace of "crying Child," "angry Child," and "cowardly Child."

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🌱 "Shadow Friendly" Strategy (Checklist)

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When you feel negative emotions, notice:

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[] Welcome: "Here comes the anger, thank you for reminding me that I'm being crossed."

[] No judgment: Don't curse yourself for feeling bad. Just observe it like observing clouds in the sky.

[] Embrace: Tell yourself, "It's okay to feel weak today."

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📝 [End Exercise Chapter 3]

Try writing this sentence in a paper: "I accept and allow myself to feel [fill in emotions you don't like], without feeling guilty."

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To open up to the shadows is to widen the space of light so that we can# Take that kid homeCompletely, sir.

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