Do period struggles count as a valid need?

The other day on the subway, I noticed a priority seat sitting empty. Normally, I’d never touch it since it’s for seniors, pregnant people, or people with obvious disabilities. But that day, my period cramps were agonizing. Sweat was dripping down my back and I could barely keep it together. I tried scrolling my phone to distract myself, but every stop dragged on forever.

At one point, my vision went fuzzy and I had to grip the pole tight just to stay upright. I couldn’t stop staring at that seat. It was free but I kept thinking what if people judge me? They’ll think I’m just being selfish. It’s that weird guilt. You’re in so much pain but it’s invisible, so it feels like it doesn’t “count.”

So would you take the seat when your body’s screaming for relief or tough it out?

#Letschat #Askelmon8 #PeriodStruggles

2025/11/13 Edited to

... Read moreMany people experience intense discomfort during their menstrual cycles, with symptoms ranging from severe cramps and dizziness to nausea and fatigue. Despite these symptoms being common, the pain often goes unnoticed by others since it is not visibly apparent. This can lead to feelings of isolation and reluctance to ask for help or accommodations, such as taking priority seats on public transportation. Priority seating is traditionally reserved for seniors, pregnant individuals, or people with obvious disabilities, but the question arises: should severe menstrual pain warrant similar considerations? Menstrual pain can severely affect mobility and balance, making standing in crowded subways or buses not only uncomfortable but unsafe. In fact, studies have shown that menstrual cramps can cause debilitating pain that impacts daily functioning. The social stigma and invisibility of period struggles contribute to the hesitation many feel when deciding whether to occupy a priority seat. The internal conflict involves fear of judgment from others who may not understand the severity of menstrual pain or consider it a justified reason for special treatment. It is important to promote awareness and empathy around invisible illnesses and conditions. Normalizing conversations about menstrual health can help reduce stigma and encourage people to prioritize their well-being without guilt. Compassionate commuters could also help by acknowledging that pain is not always visible and offering seats more freely. Ultimately, acknowledging period struggles as a valid need aligns with principles of inclusivity and respect for diverse health conditions. If you are experiencing severe menstrual symptoms, it is perfectly reasonable to prioritize your safety and comfort by taking an available priority seat.

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Spoongrrl

I’d say sit there unless someone who “needs it more” comes by

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Mwufu

Nobody is going look at you and think “ugh, look at her using the handicapped seat.” No. As long as you’d have stood up when someone with a disability boarded that needed it, I don’t see the problem. Unlike parking, you don’t need a sign that says you can sit there. If that was the only seat, and you needed to sit, just take it. I’ve never ridden a subway, but I feel like the chances of someone needing that seat while you were there are slim..since from I know most subways are underground and stairs would be hard for about 7/10 disabled people. Don’t think about these things too much, it’s how you give yourself anxiety for no reason. 9/10 people won’t remember what color shirt you had on when you leave a room. Do not worry so much, it will really help.

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