It’s OK 🫶
Long post but worth reading it may help someone..
It was not easy being a mom to my daughter, but as a mom, I did my darn BEST to love her, protect her, guide her, and show up even when I was hurting myself. 😭
I didn’t always get it right, but everything I did came from a place of love. ❤️💯
I prayed one day she’ll see that I never gave up on her even in silence, even through the tears, 😪 even when my heart broke. 💔
Now she see 🙌🏽🙌🏽 THANK YOU GOD‼️
Being a mother isn’t about being perfect it’s about being PRESENT even when it’s hard.
And no matter the distance between emotionally or physically..
You will always be their mother. And will always love your CHILD.. 👏🏽
💔 It’s ok to allow yourself to Grieve and definitely It’s Okay to Cry.
We all are allowed to cry. We are not weak; we are a parent who cares. Crying is not a sign of defeat it’s a release of the weight we’ve carried in our heart. Allow yourself to feel what’s real.
🕊️ We as parents have to give space without giving up.
Sometimes our children, especially as they grow older or go through trauma or emotional struggles, need space. That doesn’t mean they’ve stopped loving us it means they’re navigating their own pain.
Our consistency, not our pressure, will speak louder over time.🗣️📣
It’s ok now and then to send a message like:
“I’m here when you’re ready. I love you and always will.”
“No matter what, I’ll never stop being your parent.”
🤲🏽 Reflect, But Don’t Blame Yourself for Everything again “DONT BLAME YOURSELF for EVERYTHING”………
Ask yourself honestly:
1. Is there something I need to own and apologize for?
2. Have I already apologized and shown changed behavior?
3. Am I carrying guilt that’s not fully mine?
We ALL make mistakes, but part of healing is recognizing what you can control and releasing what you cannot.
🧘🏽♀️ Focus on Being a Safe Place, Not a Perfect Parent (GLORY) 🙌🏽
Even if your child isn’t engaging right now, make sure that your words, actions, and energy always say:
“This door is open. There is no judgment here. Come home when you’re ready or if you need to.
That silent kind of love sometimes speaks louder than direct conversation.
🙏🏽 It’s ok to Pray. Meditate. Talk to Someone You Trust.
You’re not alone. Whether it’s prayer, therapy, or a supportive friend, pour your heart out somewhere safe. It’s too heavy to carry by yourself.🙌🏽
Ask God for peace, clarity, and a heart strong enough to love in the silence.
❤️🩹 A Gentle Reminder:😭😭😭
You planted seeds of love in your child. Some seeds grow fast, some stay buried for years. But a seed is still a seed.
It’s not over sometimes healing takes time you didn’t expect.
Absolutely — here’s a beautiful and spiritual version of your message you can use for prayer, journaling, or a post:
**“GOD, I thank You for rebuilding the bond between my daughter Terice Smothers and I..
As a mother, my heart has cried, prayed, and hoped and I know You heard every tear.
Thank You for restoring what felt broken. Thank You for healing the unspoken.
Thank You for reminding us that love never dies, even in silence.
Continue to cover my daughter and my grandchildren, guide there heart, and remind her/them of the love that has always been here.
This bond is not just ours it’s Yours too. And with You, all things are possible.
Amen.”🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
It's incredibly tough when there's distance, emotional or physical, between you and your child. That feeling of helplessness, of not knowing what to do or say, can be overwhelming. I've walked that path, and it taught me so much about enduring love and self-compassion. One of the most profound lessons was that 'giving space' doesn't mean giving up; it means trusting their journey while holding a steady, loving space for them in your heart. It could be as simple as sending a non-demanding message like, 'Thinking of you, always here for you,' or just leaving the door open for when they're ready to step back in. It’s about being consistent in your love, not in your demands, allowing them the freedom 'TO BE YOURSELF' fully. Creating that 'safe place' isn't just for them; it’s a gift you give yourself too. It means fostering an environment where judgment doesn't live, where they know they can land softly after navigating their own storms. This might involve actively listening more than talking, validating their feelings without trying to fix them, and accepting their choices, even if they differ from what you envisioned. Sometimes, the hardest part is the waiting, but during that season, remember the crucial step of not blaming yourself for everything. It's easy to get caught in a cycle of 'what ifs' and 'should haves.' Instead, reflect on what you can control – your actions, your healing, and your capacity to forgive yourself and move forward. During these challenging times, it’s vital to nurture your own spirit. Pouring into your own cup isn't selfish; it’s essential. This can mean leaning into your faith, finding solace in prayer or meditation, seeking guidance from a trusted therapist, or sharing your heart with a supportive friend. These resources can be immense BLESSINGS, offering strength and clarity when you feel drained. Just like a delicate butterfly emerges after its time in the cocoon, healing is a process that unfolds uniquely for everyone. It takes time, patience, and unwavering hope. Remember, you are on your own journey of growth, too, and it's perfectly okay to seek support and find peace within yourself while you patiently wait for those precious reconnections. Keep planting those seeds of love, for they hold the promise of future blossoms.