✨Art of detachment and Self Preservation ✨ BW
1.) Stop trying to impress people or get validation from people who play by the social hierarchy system. They dont care about you and they never will. They are collateral damage because you dont own them anything. they dont value you. ( a lot of black women especially you darker skin women need to really understand this. society/ the system is step up a certain by to benefits the top ppl. its not going to change so learn how to adpte to it.
2.) Everyone isnt impressed by your goals, wealth ,looks they dont look at you as a human they look at you as a object to consume. They dont like you and they only want to use you. Stop flexing. flex with your self esteem and mind your buiness.
3.) You dont have friends. You have associates. Don't get caught up in race, gender, age, or ethnicity. Just because someone is the same color as you it doesn't mean they are on the same page mentality as you. All skin folks aint kin folks. sometimes( Many times) your own people will send you to the wolves if the payout/ clout is at a good price. Humans are always going to be humans.
4.) Always think about your needs and dont give So easily. you dont give your pearls to swine. protect your energy by all means dont be open.
5.) Stop helping everyone . sometimes a wounded dog is a wounded dog for a reason. Rightness and trying to be a perfect good person isnt going to help your life. Fairness doesn't exist and people will do anythting to get anything for free. learn boundaries and follow your gut instincts. you are not mother Teresa. treat people with respect but dont be a doormat.
6.) Dont do anything for free. learn boundaries and learn to let go physically and energly.
7.) Every table is not for you to sit at. Stop forcing yourselves around people places or things that dont like or respect you. its very easy when you get your validation from self. people will show you how they feel about you. dont fight it accept it and move on with your life.
8.) 95% of men hate women. you're not special. Men will sleep with anyone , majority of them dont have standards. They are all puting on a show. Everyone that is marginalized they are usually sleeping with them or like them behind closed doors. Dont let women use thier flase privilege on you because when you go on 304 tik tok,these women will say men like everyone they just pretend to have a pefrence because of societal pressures or fear of being ostracized .Everything is a show. Learn how to decanter men because they are for self.
9.) Live your life and dont feel guilty. all you have is self .
10.) The best thing you can do in yourself is learn how to be disciplined ,focus , self driven, independent, having efficiency, healthy detachment, accepting reality and always remember....Life is not fair and everyone doesn't play by the rules. The rules only exist to the underclass/ marginalized to keep the system in place. Stop letting religion/gender roles or fake rules control your life. Black Women ...they only gave you these rules because they have keep you as " The help of society ". Read history books everything is connected.
11.) Take your time and slow down...........with everything.
In today's fast-paced society, learning the art of healthy detachment and self-preservation is not just beneficial but essential, especially for Black women navigating complex social dynamics. Beyond the guidance provided, embracing these principles can empower individuals to reclaim control over their lives and mental well-being. Firstly, understanding the importance of setting and maintaining boundaries cannot be overstated. Boundaries serve as a protective barrier that safeguards your emotional and mental health from being compromised by those who may not have your best interests at heart. It’s crucial to discern between genuine relationships and mere associations, as not every connection serves your growth or well-being. Equally important is the practice of protecting your energy. This involves conscious decisions about whom you invest in emotionally and mentally. Recognizing that not everyone will respect or value you, especially within societal structures that often marginalize, can help prevent unnecessary burnout and disappointment. Self-validation is another critical aspect. Instead of seeking approval from external sources—many of which operate on social hierarchies that marginalize—you should strive to build self-esteem grounded in your values and accomplishments. This internal affirmation fosters resilience and reduces the tendency to seek validation from those who may not appreciate your worth. Furthermore, developing discipline, focus, and independence acts as a foundation for self-preservation. These qualities enable you to pursue your goals without being easily swayed by societal pressures or superficial measures of success such as wealth or appearance. They also help cultivate efficiency in managing your life and resources. It’s equally vital to accept the realities of societal inequalities and biases. Understanding that life may not always be fair and that systems often enforce unequal rules can help you adapt and strategize effectively rather than being disillusioned. Historical context is also an essential tool, providing insight into why certain dynamics exist and empowering you to navigate them with awareness and purpose. Finally, taking time to slow down and reflect supports mental health and helps prevent overwhelming stress. Mindful pacing allows for better decision-making and reinforces a balanced approach to life’s challenges. Integrating these practices into daily life can significantly enhance your capacity for healthy detachment and meaningful self-preservation, ultimately fostering a life of empowerment and authentic self-expression.
