When My Son Snaps at Me

It’s not just you.

Your child has snapped at you before — maybe today.

They’ve rolled their eyes, slammed a door, yelled “What?!” or even said “I hate you.”

It stings.

And it’s easy to take it personally.

But here’s what I remind myself in those moments:

This is what it looks like when a child is still learning how to handle big feelings— and hasn’t yet figured out what to do with the heat in their body or the storm in their brain.

Snapping isn’t always about disrespect.

It’s about dysregulation. Immaturity. Frustration. Sensory overload.

And our job isn’t to match it with more intensity…

It’s to show them another way.

Take the breath.

Step back.

Say: “Try again. I’m listening.” 

or 

“Let’s pause and talk when we’re both calm.”

or

"We use respectful words in our house, it seems you may need a break."

You’re not giving in.

You’re giving them a model and boundary.

Because kids don’t learn emotional regulation by being told what not to do —

They learn it by being shown what’s possible.

💛 Read that again the next time you hear “I hate you.”

📌 Save this for a hard day.

💬 What’s one thing you say or do when the snapping starts? I’d love to know what helps in your home too.

2025/4/10 Edited to

... Read moreChildhood emotional outbursts can be challenging for parents. When children express distress through yelling or snapping, it often signals feelings of dysregulation rather than disrespect. As parents, understanding that these reactions are often a result of sensory overload, frustration, or immaturity is crucial in fostering emotional growth in our children. In these situations, maintaining calmness and empathy can make a significant difference. It's essential to model the behavior you want your child to learn. For instance, practice mindfulness techniques such as deep breaths or physical activities like squeezing a pillow to release pent-up energy. This not only helps you stay grounded but also demonstrates healthy coping mechanisms to your child. Another helpful approach is connecting with your child at their level. This establishes trust and reinforces the idea that you're there to support, not lecture. Moreover, offering space for them to express themselves, while also reminding them of the importance of respectful dialogue, encourages healthier communication patterns. By illustrating what emotional regulation looks like, children can begin to learn how to manage their feelings. This includes showing them how to pause, reflect, and choose words wisely during moments of conflict. At the heart of this journey is patience; acknowledging that both you and your child are learning together through these trying experiences can transform the dynamics of your relationship. As you navigate these tough days, it’s vital to remember that growth takes time. Celebrate the little victories and focus on building a supportive environment where children feel safe to express their feelings and learn from them.

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me: you don’t yell at me my daughter: ….*yells at me again but louder*

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Eye LOVE this, even as a parent to a towering 18 yr old, STILL helpful to consider this w/my ongoing reparenting when we don’t agree or having one of “those” kinda days.💯🙏🏽💪🏽🙌🏽🔥💙🦋

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