You think you miss them.

From personal experience, I can say that limerence feels like an emotional rollercoaster. It's that intense longing for someone's attention that never quite brings the peace or security we crave. Unlike love, which is rooted in mutual care and commitment, limerence is often about chasing an idealized version of someone who may not return your feelings consistently. For those dealing with borderline personality disorder (BPD) or complex PTSD (CPTSD), this pain can be amplified. The ache of wanting to be chosen stems from deeper feelings of unlovability and abandonment. Over time, recognizing these patterns helped me differentiate between unhealthy attachment and real love. It's important to cultivate self-awareness and self-compassion. When you notice the desperate need for validation from someone who isn't fully present, try redirecting that energy inward. Building a strong relationship with yourself is crucial to breaking the cycle of limerence. Seeking support from communities or professionals that understand BPD, limerence, or CPTSD can make a significant difference. Remember, genuine love involves safety, trust, and choice—elements that limerence lacks. Healing is possible when you learn to prioritize your worth over the fleeting ache of wanting to be chosen.