I figured it out

2025/7/7 Edited to

... Read moreYou know, for the longest time, I was wondering why men always open doors for me and let me walk in first. It’s one of those subtle gestures that can make you feel a certain way, but I’ve always been curious about the why behind it. Is it just an old habit, a sign of respect, or something more? I’ve seen it happen everywhere – from a first date to just going into a coffee shop with a male friend. And honestly, for a while, I guess I'll never know, but I decided to do a little digging, and I think I've finally started to figure it out! From what I’ve gathered, this tradition of men opening doors for women is deeply rooted in what we call chivalry. Historically, chivalry was a code of conduct for knights, emphasizing bravery, honor, and courtesy, especially towards women. It was about protecting and showing deference. Think about it: in older times, doors could be heavy, or the path beyond might have been uncertain. A man going first could be seen as ensuring safety, or simply making the woman's passage easier. It wasn't about weakness; it was about demonstrating care and strength. Fast forward to today, and the conversation around why men hold the door for women gets a bit more nuanced. Some people view it as outdated, suggesting it implies women are delicate or incapable. Others, myself included, often see it as a simple act of politeness and respect. When a man holds a door for me, I usually interpret it as a gesture of kindness, not a statement about my abilities. It's similar to saying 'please' or 'thank you' – just good manners. I've also noticed it's not just about building doors. Many of the queries I see are about why do men open car doors for women. This one feels even more intimate, often associated with dating or specific acts of courtship. It’s an extension of the same principle, a way to show attentiveness and make someone feel valued. For me, it adds a touch of old-school romance, which can be quite charming. But let's be real, the world has changed. Women are strong, independent, and perfectly capable of opening their own doors. So, when men let women go first, what does it truly mean in our modern context? I believe it has evolved into a general act of courtesy that transcends gender. While the historical roots are undeniably gendered, today, it's often an expression of consideration for another person, regardless of their gender. I’ve certainly held doors for men, and I appreciate it when anyone, male or female, holds a door for me. It’s about making human connections through small acts of kindness. Ultimately, whether you call it chivalry, politeness, or just good manners, the act of men opening doors for women speaks to a desire for respectful interaction. It’s a way to acknowledge someone else's presence and offer a small comfort. It's fascinating how such a simple action can carry so much history and spark so many different interpretations. So next time it happens, instead of just wondering, maybe take a moment to appreciate the gesture, whatever your personal take on it might be!

15 comments

See more comments

Related posts

I figured it out
⭐️Do you ever see people posting about making money from Amazon just from reviewing things they have in their home? ➡️Wondering how the heck they are doing this? Well I saw the same thing scrolling each night on IG and finally I said Iam going to try this craziness out.😃 ⏩Fast forward I m

1 like

A woman in a blue bikini sits in shallow water, with text overlay reading 'I LOST 88 POUNDS & GOT INTO THE BEST SHAPE This is How'. A yellow arrow points downwards, and 'lemon8 @adaywithkd' is at the bottom.
A gray plate holds a snack assortment including crackers, sliced ham, salami, cheese, red and orange bell pepper strips, and a small piece of dark chocolate.
A white plate features a breakfast meal with scrambled eggs mixed with vegetables, buttered toast, and another toast slice topped with mixed berries and honey.
Can you believe I figured it out..👏
It makes me cringe to say that I spent almost all of my 20s trying to lose weight.. I was always trying to diet or trying the next new thing. I would lose a few pounds then gain it back. Professional yo-yo dieter. Fast forward to now. I’m coming up on 2 years since I started my health/wellness/f

567 likes

I think I figured it out
#carshoots #lemon8bookclub #holidaydecor #shareyourthoughts #dodge 💸 Price Range

17 likes

I figured it out!
Let me know your thoughts

0 likes

I didn’t heal because I figured it out.
I really believed that if I could just understand it, everything would fall into place. And understanding helped, it gave me language, clarity, and context. But what I didn’t realize yet was that my body was still braced. Still waiting. Still protecting. My mind knew the story. My nervous

7 likes

A hand holds a pink Kindle displaying the cover of 'Never Lie' by Freida McFadden. Overlay text reads 'HELLO?!? 11/10'. The background is a cozy bedroom with pink lighting, a bed, and a TV.
Freida rlly out did herself with this one🤯
I totally did not see this plot twist coming! Just when I thought I had it figured out, I was completely wrong🤣I LOVED this book and highly recommended🫶 #freidamcfaddenbooks #roomtour #booktok

12 likes

I Thought I Had It All Figured Out… Until I Didn’t
For years, I did what I was “supposed” to do. I got the degree. Built the career. Climbed the corporate ladder. And then one day, I realized… I didn’t want this anymore. I felt stuck. Trapped. Afraid to make a change. But here’s what no one tells you: You don’t have

1 like

I don't have it all figured out.
(Jess Hilarious) . . . . #motivation #fyp #jesshilarious

4 likes

I have it figured out…
Comment “DRINK” for my fav go to drink, that supports energy, mood, sleep, slashes inflammation and bloat • • • • • Drinks | mood | energy | sleep | moms | crash and burn • • • #drinks #energydrink #hormonalsupport #inflammationrelief #mocktail #energyshift #recipeidea

2 likes

figured I'd try it out 🫶
#new #lemon8newcomer

5 likes

He figured it out
#Honkai #HSR #HonkaiStarRail #AnimeGamer

1 like

A title card in a bookstore setting reads "dark academia BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS" in black boxes, with various books visible on shelves in the background.
A hand holds the book "Lolita" by Vladimir Nabokov, a 50th Anniversary Edition, with a text overlay discussing its controversial plot about a grown man and a 12-year-old girl.
A hand holds "The Briar Book of the Dead" by A.G. Slatter, a red book with gold and black skeletal designs, with a text overlay describing its witchy plot about Ellie.
dark academia books to check out 📚🎓🏛️
i’ve been into dark academia books for a while now but rarely have the time to sit down and get myself into the depth of the world that’s always created. these were all on a table display at barnes and noble for dark academia vibes :) ⭐️ lolita by vladimir nabokov: i used to hear about this book

776 likes

I don’t have it all figured out—but I show up
I don’t have it all figured out—but I show up anyway. Pressure builds diamonds. #KeepGoing #MentalStrength #RealTalk #GrowthMindset

1 like

A woman with dark hair in a high ponytail wears a light blue ribbed top and large light blue denim-textured hoop earrings. Text overlays include "Earrings Shein" and "I haven't figured it out yet but I will" with a heart icon.
I haven’t figured it out yet but I will
#SHEIN #blackgirllemon8 #keepgoing #thoughtoftheday #loveher

73 likes

I figured it out 5 seconds after recording
#johndeere #cityslicker #country

0 likes

15 Years of Trial and Error…I Figured It out
I’ve spent 15 years trying to make money online as an off-grid homesteader— and I finally cracked the code! If you’re tired of struggling and want real, sustainable income, I’ll show you how to make it happen. #OffGridLife #HomesteadIncome #MakeMoneyOnline #FinancialFreedom

0 likes

I figured it out,lol

0 likes

Not everything needs to be figured out today🤍🫶
Lately I’ve been needing this reminder a lot… Slow down. Not everything needs to be figured out today. Sometimes it’s not that we don’t have the answers — we’re just rushing ourselves too much. This is a clear quartz necklace I’ve been wearing when my mind feels overwhelmed. Not to “fix” any

12 likes

Figured I would hop on here and see how it goes
#Dodge #charger #hellcat #widebody #800hp

36 likes

DON’T LET IN-N-OUT KNOW IM TELLING YOU THIS🤫
I absolutely love working at in n out they are so awesome! And I love sharing “secrets” with all of my customers so i figured I’d share some with you all as well!🍔 A lot of people in Cali will probably already know these but if you’ve never been to in n out odds are you don’t know about the “sec

1906 likes

Figured it out!

2 likes

5:00 - Get Out of Bed
The best advice I could give for someone wanting to wake up earlier is to go to bed earlier. My bedtime is 8:30 pm with a 7:30 pm devices-off alarm. This routine is preparing me to reach goals I’ve set for 2026. Because it takes 3 weeks to create a new habit, I figured 3 months will turn this i

1591 likes

The book cover for 'Autoboyography' by Christina Lauren, featuring two figures standing on an open book under a starry sky with a city skyline. The cover includes a quote from Publishers Weekly and notes the author as a New York Times Bestselling Author.
The book cover for 'Okay, Cupid' by Mason Deaver, showing a heart-shaped maze with neon text. Two small figures, a boy and a girl, are at opposite ends of the maze. The cover also mentions the author of 'I Wish You All The Best'.
The book cover for 'Solitaire' by Alice Oseman, depicting a young person in a red coat standing in a snowy landscape. A computer window with the title is at the top. The cover highlights the author as a bestselling author.
Books I Checked Out From The Library!!!
(My pronouns r he/him^^) I’ve heard good things about all of these books so I figured I’d check them out since I planned a trip to the library today. I’ve actually read through most of Autoboyography but when I returned it last time bc I reached my limit of renewals I forgot to add the page I left

5 likes

A woman takes a close-up selfie, looking at the camera with a slight smile. She wears a grey t-shirt, and a sunflower-patterned pillow is visible behind her. Text overlay reads: "I'm not here as someone who has it all figured out." and "Lemon8 @emilyrose2431".
I’m not here as someone who has it all figured out
I’m just a mom who started and kept going. And now I help other moms do the same 💛 Guide is in my bio if you want to start #MomSideHustle #WorkFromHomeMom #MomIncome #AffiliateMarketingForBeginners #MakeMoneyFromYourPhone
Emily

Emily

0 likes

Turns Out, Gen Alpha Just Needs THIS 💖
Made a few more cute stuffies for my crochet class 🧸✨ I finally figured it out—Gen Alpha thrives on instant encouragement. So I started giving a stuffy to anyone who wowed me that day… and guess what? They ALL stepped up 💪💖 Watching them improve was pure magic. #CrochetForKids #TeacherLife #
dailypaycheckoffgrid

dailypaycheckoffgrid

4 likes

I don’t have it all figured out… but I still show
I still get nervous to post I still overthink how I look or sound I still wonder if people are judging me But I’ve learned to move through the fear and show up anyway Not because I’m fearless But because I know someone out there is waiting for real Not perfect Just someone who’s doing th
Elvia Barillas

Elvia Barillas

0 likes

We eventually figured it out
#murdermystery over everything #Lemon8Diary
Devin

Devin

0 likes

🔥 I Finally Figured It Out
After trying more products, more steps, and more complicated routines, I realized the biggest difference came from keeping things simple. These are the products I reach for when I want to look more refreshed, more awake, and a little more like myself 💜 everything is linked in my profile #skinc
nicnac

nicnac

0 likes

How I Figured Out My Style
Andre Thomas

Andre Thomas

28 likes

I just figured out reels and then this happened
It took me ages to figure out how to best represent my work on social media and I’m still learning. Only in the past few months did I figure out how to make decent reels/tiktok videos for my art. And now there’s Lemon8 lol I’m still getting a feel for it. So far all my home page has is posts on in
Scrubjay Art

Scrubjay Art

8 likes

I figured out how people keep their house CLEAN
I finally figured out the “system” people use to keep their house clean. Turns out it’s not motivation… it’s a mindset shift. I talk more about this on my podcast That Changes Things 🎙️ #podcast #mindsetshift #habits #adulting #thatchangesthings
monica bulnes

monica bulnes

1019 likes

A blue sign with white text "SOON YOU WILL REALISE IT WAS ALL IN YOUR FAVOUR." stands against a vibrant sunset sky. Silhouettes of trees frame the sign, emphasizing the hopeful message of eventual positive outcomes, aligning with the article's theme of winning.
Have you figured it out
You are always on the winning side. #YouCanWin
Mr. Saylee

Mr. Saylee

43 likes

I still have not figured this out
Jen_l_g

Jen_l_g

13 likes

Lemon8 can I just let it out?
It’s been a while since I posted! I been wanting to start a blog / digital space where I can just write! No niche just spill, raw feelings and vulnerability and just speak from my heart. For a while and still now I don’t feel safe. There I said it lol I don’t feel safe sharing some of these
Joneitra J ✨

Joneitra J ✨

5 likes

We figured it out eventually
#plateup #vtuber #vtuberuprising #vtuber
Amethystwolf

Amethystwolf

2 likes

Figured I’d try this out 🤓
#gettoknowme
Christopher Rodriguez

Christopher Rodriguez

0 likes

Check out my YT video!
Hey y'all! I just made a yt video reviewing the book I posted about a few weeks ago, and I would be really appreciative if you checked it out! I tried really hard on it but it only has one view which kind of bums me out 😅, so I figured I would try to pr it some on other platforms lol. Anyways t
Moonshine Pink

Moonshine Pink

4 likes

A pink digital camera with an 18x zoom lens and a white adapter are displayed on a textured fabric background. The image is titled "Content creation journey" and includes the Lemon8 username.
Content creation journey : Check out our YouTube
A lot of the content I share on YouTube comes from TikTok. I’ve downloaded videos from TikTok and removed the watermark . I found this camera on tiktok shop to use for vlogs and I love the quality. For beginners this is great, however your phone is just as good. I have the iPhone 13 Pro Max so when
Anna Marie

Anna Marie

5 likes

Drones figured out
What are they? It’s the US government b!t@h!!!
Neysita Ney

Neysita Ney

39 likes

Gonna try out this app too
Voice actor, spicy audio creator, and Twitch affiliate (that one’s brand new). Figured I’d try it out here. #hellolemon8 #spicycontentcreator #twitchstreamer
ithax.audio

ithax.audio

4 likes

A woman with a Santa hat filter and a Harvard crest overlay, with text "Dropping out of Harvard?!?" and "I fell behind and switched Programs and schools (Read Description)". The image reflects the article's theme of changing academic paths.
Dropped out of Harvard Classes?!?
I have been taking Harvard online classes to get a certificate in artificial intelligence. I already have an AS degree and a business I run full time. I took the classes because I see the open market and I figured it be a good idea considering I work in tech and marketing… but I fell behind and now
Curlyssa

Curlyssa

4 likes

Simba has it all figured out
Doctor and Dogtors 🐻‍❄️🐻‍❄️

Doctor and Dogtors 🐻‍❄️🐻‍❄️

4 likes

The "Merge" Permanently Locked me Out! 😫let's chat
I cannot believe this. I updated the app and when i clicked it it said "login with tiktok"..since i already had my tiktok linked to my 1st account..I figured: "no problem". Well,BIG problem...all the app did was makenme start a brand new profile and literally says my other profile d
MadHatter Nails

MadHatter Nails

5 likes

Chris Brown | Not having it figured out is okay💯❤️‍🩹
GodThankYou

GodThankYou

15 likes

See more