ND isn’t quirky or trendy
I am burnt out.
I’ve mentioned quite a few times on here that I’m neurodivergent (ADHD and my doctor also thinks I could have autism but I haven’t been fully diagnosed yet). I’m currently going through a period of really bad burnout (like it’s even taken me awhile to finish this post) and wanted to talk about this topic a bit.
I have spent my entire life “masking”, which is basically putting on a mask to hide my true self, to fit in with the neurotypical world. I’ve done this forever and didn’t even realize I was doing it. And masking is exhausting.
I get really overwhelmed and worn out easily, especially in social settings, even with close friends and family.
I do have a full time job and I enjoy it; I enjoy my routine, and my job is very hands on so it’s fulfilling to me. But I get so drained from it and I in turn struggle with executive dysfunction, and keeping up with household tasks and just adult tasks in general.
I often feel like such a failure for being an adult who can’t always handle a normal 9-5, simple conversation and social settings, and just adulting in general.
I struggle with new people, small talk and eye contact. I have a hard time making friends and maintaining relationships.
My brain often gets overloaded, I shut down and have meltdowns, and I have a hard time focusing; but I also have things that I absolutely LOVE and could talk about for hours; fantasy books, plants and cats.
I don’t really fit into any “niches” or “boxes” so sometimes I struggle with social media because there’s such a pull to have a niche. But there’s so many things that I like and love to share and talk about. I think that’s why I like Lemon8 so much, because everyone just posts whatever they want.
If anyone else can relate, I would love to connect with others who are also ADHD, on the spectrum, or even if your self diagnosed or suspect you may be neurodivergent of some kind. Let’s get to know each other! 🫶🏻
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Living as a neurodivergent individual can be both a unique and challenging experience. Many neurodivergent individuals, such as those with ADHD or autism, often deal with heightened sensory sensitivities and require different coping mechanisms. Understanding burnout in neurodivergent people is crucial; it typically manifests from overstimulation or emotional fatigue due to continual masking or the need to meet societal expectations. Masking, which involves concealing one’s true self to fit in, can lead to chronic exhaustion. This is particularly true in social settings, where neurodivergent individuals may feel pressured to conform to social norms, resulting in overwhelming sensory experiences that can trigger shutdowns or meltdowns. Building a supportive community is essential; forums and platforms that encourage open discussions can provide relief and companionship as individuals share their struggles and triumphs. Additionally, focusing on interests and passions, such as creative hobbies or beloved topics, can serve as a grounding practice for navigating daily life. This emphasis on personal interests can provide a sense of identity and community, allowing neurodivergent individuals to feel accepted and understood. Connecting with others who share similar experiences fosters a sense of belonging, which is vital for emotional wellbeing. By embracing neurodiversity and recognizing the unique strengths within the community, we can create more compassionate spaces for everyone.
Thank you for sharing. Glad the conversation is being brought forward🫶🏻 I spent my whole life masking, to the point it was painful. Trying to live up to others expectations and society. When simply my brain didn’t work that way. I’m reaping the consequences of that now, but healing. Trying to take it day by day❤️