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Characteristics of people trying to control people and how to deal with them🌙💐

I feel like I want to do what I want with the other person,

Peerage and, love, irritated not me to do what I want my best friend to do,

Isn't that true?

it's not about control.

It's a sign of wanting to feel safe.

I'm afraid of feeling anxious.

I'm just trying to feel safe by moving the other person.

But really,

You don't have to control it.

To experience little by little,

It leads to the most peace of mind 🌷

Don't blame yourself.

Because your anxiety is just looking for reassurance 🤍

Love Psychology Human relationships # mental _ care Self-analysis Psychology

2025/11/8 Edited to

... Read more人をコントロールしようとする心理の背景には、自分の不安をどうにかしたいという深い気持ちがあると感じています。私もかつて、周りの人たちに期待通りの行動をしてほしくて焦りやイライラを感じることが多々ありました。そんな時、この記事で紹介されている「不安な自分に優しく声をかける」「自分を信じる練習をする」という方法を取り入れることで、少しずつ心が軽くなったのを覚えています。 また、コントロールしたくなるときには「完璧主義」や「自信のなさ」が影響している場合が多いです。私の場合、完璧に物事を進めたいあまり、小さな失敗も許せず、人を動かすことで安心感を得ようとしてしまう傾向がありました。そんな時には一度、「本当に自分は何を求めているのか?」「相手を変える前に自分が変われることはないか?」と自問自答することが役立ちました。 さらに、画像にも記された方法の一つである「コントロールしなくても大丈夫」を体験することを意識して、小さな挑戦を続けることが重要です。例えば、大切な人に少し任せてみたり、自分の不安を手放す練習をしたりすることで、心が徐々に安定してくるのを感じました。 このように、人をコントロールしようとする衝動は自分の不安を解消しようとする表れであり、その根っこにある心の声を丁寧に拾い上げることが大事です。焦らず自分を責めないこと、そして少しずつ「信じること」を増やしていくことで、心がふわっと軽くなる瞬間を一緒に目指していきましょう。

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