Lemon8 Dating Warning: A NJ Nightmare
Two years ago, I met a guy in New Jersey for a quick coffee date. We hit it off enough to go back to his place to watch a show. Things got flirty, but I wasn’t feeling it, so I said, “I’m out.” He tried to convince me to stay, but I left.
Then I noticed my car key fob was missing. I called he claimed he looked but found nothing. Stranded, I took a late train home, got my spare, and paid a cab to get back to my car at 1 a.m. Next day, he texted, “Found your keys! Come back.” I asked him to mail them he admitted it was a lie to get me back. A new fob costs $300, so I was livid.
Weeks later, he sent a pic of my keys but got nasty when I didn’t flirt. He demanded I Venmo $15 for “my share” of the date before returning them. After delays and creepy texts, I said my brother was coming for the keys. He left them at a local deli. I drove from NY to grab them.
This guy was a manipulative jerk beware, ladies!
1. Ever had a date pull a shady move like this?
2. How would you handle a guy holding your stuff hostage?
3. What’s your go-to way to spot a creep early
Dating can sometimes lead to unexpected surprises, and stories of bad dates are not uncommon. It's essential to stay vigilant and recognize red flags that may indicate a potentially dangerous or unhealthy situation. For instance, a date who pressurizes you for financial contributions, as seen in the story, often shows a lack of respect for your boundaries. It's crucial to trust your instincts. If something feels off, it often is. For every potential partner, consider establishing clear communication about expectations and boundaries early on. Empower yourself with knowledge on recognizing behavior patterns that may suggest emotional manipulation. Additionally, utilize social media and online resources to gather insights about someone's background. Research has shown that sharing your concerns with trusted friends can help in identifying troubling aspects of a relationship or date. Always keep an emergency contact handy when meeting someone new and consider meeting in public places to ensure safety. Encouraging discussions about dating experiences can foster community awareness and support, particularly among women who may find themselves facing similar situations. Ultimately, prioritizing your safety and well-being should always come first in the dating realm.
damn I am so sorry you had to deal with that! it's scary!