when do moms have time for themselves?

i keep seeing posts that say

“if you want to do it, you’ll make time for it”

but like… where? 😅

i work 50 hours a week

my husband works

we have a baby

and i’m breastfeeding + pumping on top of it all

and somehow my day is already full before it even starts

i want to work out

i want to sit down and play my switch

i want to do hand embroidery again

i want to feel like me outside of just being mom + work

but right now it feels like my time is

work → get ready → feed/pump → take care of baby → sleep → repeat

and i don’t want to burn myself out trying to force more in

so genuinely…

how are other moms doing it?

because i want to make space for me too,

i just don’t know where it fits yet

maybe it’s just a season… but i’m trying to figure out how to still exist in it too

#newmomlife

#momthoughts

#breastfeedingmom

#momlifeunfiltered

#honestmotherhood

3/27 Edited to

... Read moreBeing a working mom with a newborn is undeniably challenging, especially when breastfeeding and pumping demand so much time and energy. From my own experience and conversations with other moms, I’ve found that while it’s difficult to carve out time, it’s not impossible. One key approach is to shift expectations and embrace small moments rather than large blocks of time. For example, even 10 minutes of mindful breathing, a quick walk around the block, or a few stitches of embroidery can help you reconnect with yourself. Another important factor is involving your support system. If your partner also works full-time, consider setting up a flexible schedule to share baby duties. Perhaps you pump during work breaks, and your partner takes over for playtime. Sometimes, reaching out to trusted friends or family for short babysitting stints can create precious pockets of time to recharge. Many moms find that integrating personal passions with baby care can be helpful too. Listening to an audiobook while nursing or doing hand embroidery during calm moments with the baby can bring joy without feeling like lost time. Lastly, it’s crucial to be kind to yourself and accept that this intense period is often seasonal. Prioritize self-care not as another task but as a vital part of your well-being. This mindset can reduce burnout and encourage a healthier balance. Remember, motherhood is a marathon, not a sprint — and making space for yourself, even little by little, supports both you and your family in the long run.

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Aida

Ugh. Everyone says it gets easier but when? Lol I have two dogs with no yard so they have to go in walks at least twice a day, full time job, partner works out of state and only comes home 4 days every two months, most of the time I feel like I’m just surviving and I was diagnosed with Graves’ disease which explains why I’m so damn tired all the time (you know just adding to the already tiredness lol) I wake up at 5am walk the dogs, shower start getting ready, baby wakes up feed and get him ready and finish getting ready pack lunch (made the night before) make something quick for breakfast which I eat at work, drop baby off, go to work, lunch at 12 pick baby up to feed, drop back off (I work around the corner luckily), work another 4-5 hrs, pick baby up, feed, play, attempt to eat, walk dogs with baby, bathe, feed, then prepare things for the next day. There is no me time left unless I’m up until 1am! It truly is exhausting I feel you! I don’t know how we do it I just know that we do! We got this right?!

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