What if I’ve stayed?
Seeing my Instagram/ Instagram stories that my friends posted made me think of my life choices lately…
What if I’ve continued to stay in the relationship, how would it be like?
I’d have a wedding hosted, have my own home, but all with the expenses of my own finance because my ex hasn’t had a proper job then/ just started working after graduation.
I wouldn’t be able to go for my diploma to study, I would be stressing over money, and maybe would be quarreling with him a lot cause of that. If we had a kid, where would the money come from when both of us are struggling to survive?
Maybe I should be thankful for the choice I’ve made to leave so that I could get away from unnecessary stress, and to learn what I really want in life, and to learn more about myself..
There were many times in the past when I’ve wanted to do certain things but my old me was too lazy/ afraid to change. Now, I have no obligations to not try and experience things that I’m interested in. And maybe, that’s what causes me to be more extroverted and to be comfortable to talk to strangers/ speak out for myself.
There’s still many things that I want to try to be or inspire to become.. But everything has to start small and from somewhere, so my current goal is to be better than who I was yesterday. 💪🏻 Gambatte Krys to be the better you!
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Making the decision to leave a long-term relationship is never easy, especially when the future seems uncertain. From my experience, such a choice is often met with a whirlwind of emotions—fear, doubt, and even guilt. However, it also opens doors to personal growth and opportunities you might never have imagined. When I reflect on what life would have been like if I had stayed in my 8-year relationship, the picture is not as rosy as the social media posts made me initially believe. While there might have been milestones like a wedding or owning a home, these were overshadowed by financial struggles and emotional stress. My ex was just starting his career and wasn’t able to contribute financially, which meant I bore the full weight of expenses. Stress over money leads to tensions, and arguments become more frequent. These issues can eventually affect your mental health and stifle your personal growth. By choosing to leave, I found freedom to focus on myself. I started pursuing my diploma, something I had deferred out of fear and obligation. This step was vital in reclaiming my independence and confidence. Solo dates and self-discovery became a new norm, allowing me to understand what I genuinely want in life, beyond societal expectations. I also noticed how my personality gradually shifted. I became more extroverted and comfortable speaking up for myself. It was as if shedding the layers of my old self allowed me to connect with new people and new experiences. This transformation isn’t always linear or easy—it requires patience and continuous effort. My current goal is simple but powerful: to be better than who I was yesterday. For anyone contemplating a similar path, remember that life after a breakup is not just about healing but reinventing yourself. It’s okay to feel scared or uncertain because growth comes with discomfort. Stay patient and open to new experiences; often, your best self is just getting started once you embrace change.