I’m not pregnant!! Please stop asking!!
Taylor said it perfectly…
Now I’m down bad crying at the gym!!! 🎶
-or at least I was -but not anymore. And that’s what we call **growth**
A new topic of discussion has been circling socials recently. Taylor swifts body, and rumors of her possibly being pregnant becuase it looks like she gained weight…
she eloquently ignores it, as a true queen would never let it bother her, or at least show that it does.
Throughout my career I’ve heard some crazy, intrusive comments and questions. Most are handled good sense of humor.
The one that gets to me though is the pregnancy comment.
and when I say “gets to me”, I mean it as more of an irritation. That of which goes far beyond my own body image, and aimed at an overall social problem.
It’s 2024. Why are we still asking this?
Is it not common knowledge that it is rude to be asking, or stating anything about a woman being pregnant?!
Unless you are 10000000% positive, because they have told you themselves that they, are in fact growing a human inside of them- you do not, under any circumstance ask or comment about pregnancy.
Besides the fact that asking such a question could bring up an immense emotional response or trauma.
What if they are not pregnant?
Then what?
I have terrible posture. Between an anterior pelvic tilt, and slouched shoulders- if I’m not actively paying attention to it -my natural/neutral stance causes my stomach to stick out, and yes it can look like I’m pregnant.
But the real question is- why are you even asking me in the first place?
And the funny part is, it’s women asking.
Which I find that to be even worse.
Overtime my mindset has shifted away from self sabotage.
My internal reactions improved, going from “I’m so fat I look pregnant” to “I need to improve my posture”, to then placing it back to them
entirely with “this person is wack even asking me this”
Quaint responses with a simple “no” and quick change of subject, have developed into a dark sense of humor response of “no I’m just fat”
The important take away from this is I understand why the question is being asked, and it is not due to my weight, but likly posture. Furthermore it is a direct reflection of the person asking/commenting and not me at all.
So here’s a snap I sent a friend right after a patient asked ‘how many months along I was’. Something that I never intended to share, but now feel that I need to for the version of me in this video who responded back with “no it’s ok, don’t be sorry you asked. It’s fine, I’m fine”. Because no it’s not ok. And you should be sorry. You should feel ashamed asking such a thing because you never know what someone is going through with surrounding this subject. I am not personally not going through something emotionally traumatizing regarding pregnancy. My but heart aches for the women who are, and still have to deal with this ignorance.
So, keeping in mind a change of mindset, and Growth.
How would you respond??
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It's fascinating how a simple search query like 'fake pregnancy test prank picture' can pop up, making us think about the concept of 'fake pregnancy' in general. While some might be looking for a laugh, the truth is, the idea of a 'fake' or mistaken pregnancy can hit incredibly close to home for many of us. It’s not always a deliberate prank; sometimes, it’s just the unfortunate result of societal assumptions and a lack of empathy. I’ve heard stories, and frankly, experienced moments, where the line between a silly misunderstanding and a deeply uncomfortable situation gets blurred. You know, like when someone genuinely asks you, 'how many months pregnant am I?' or worse, 'when I had my baby?' It’s baffling because, as the original post touches on, it’s often completely off the mark. For me, it can be something as simple as the way a loose shirt hangs. I’ve even found myself trying to 'beat down for my stomach' in certain outfits, just hoping to avoid those intrusive questions. It's a frustrating dance we shouldn't have to do. Thinking about 'fake pregnancy test pranks' makes me reflect on the intent behind such actions. Is it truly harmless fun, or does it perpetuate a culture where pregnancy, a deeply personal and sometimes sensitive journey, becomes fodder for jokes or baseless speculation? When people are quick to assume pregnancy based on appearance, it contributes to the very same problem that makes these pranks resonate – the idea that a woman's body is public property for comment and conjecture. This isn't just about avoiding a prank; it's about respecting boundaries and understanding the potential emotional weight behind such questions. What if someone is struggling with infertility? What if they've experienced a loss? Or, like in my case, what if it's simply a matter of posture or a particular outfit that makes my stomach stick out a bit more? The OCR content highlighted this perfectly: 'Another day of someone asking how many months pregnant I am and when I had my baby. Crazy cause this shirt is loose on me too. And I have to really beat down for my stomach in this one.' It perfectly encapsulates the constant, unwelcome scrutiny. We need to challenge this ingrained habit of commenting on women's bodies. Before you jump to conclusions or consider a 'fake pregnancy' gag, take a moment to think about the real-world implications. Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it accurate? More often than not, the answer is no. Let's foster a culture where we uplift and respect each other, where personal matters remain personal, and where we celebrate bodies for their strength and individuality, not for their perceived shape. It’s about cultivating a mindset of genuine curiosity and care, not judgment or intrusive inquiry. How we respond to these situations, whether as the person being asked or the person observing, truly matters. Let’s choose empathy and discretion over quick assumptions and potentially hurtful comments.
“That’s a super weird thing to say to me!”