Growth Era Reminder 🌿🦋✨

ITS BETTER TO LET GO OF A CONNECTION THAN TO LOSE YOURSELF FITTING INTO IT

—————————————————————————————Real talk, relationships can feel impossible to navigate no matter the dynamic. It gets exhausting trying to maneuver the constant changes of life, on top of prioritizing mental and physical wellbeing in a world where acting unhinged is popular. If you find yourself wondering if the right people are sitting at your table, it’s time to get brutally honest with yourself and take a look at who & what is making you feel off balance. It’s been long proven that we need each other to survive but quality far outweighs quantity so if the choices are between intentional fulfillment in solitude, and feeling lonely around your people, it’s better to step back from that friend, family, partner, whoever it may be, and assert more boundaries. What it ultimately comes down to it choosing yourself over the ghosts and past versions that don’t exist any longer. You don’t deserve to be treated poorly in the name of long standing relationships, because you’re used to it, or just because someone else feels bad. There’s freedom in letting others’ be wrong about you, and it’s easier to make room for the people that do belong in your life when you allow yourself to stop contributing to people who are only comfortable with taking, or casting veils of misery.

You’re not alone in this, I promise. It gets easier 🕊️

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Red Flags:

Overly Critical / Negative.

Conversations are usually one sided.

Complaining is the common theme.

Their self interest is apparent.

They don’t really ask about how you are but always want to know what you’re up to.

You may feel like they’re trying to compete with you, and suspect they celebrate when you’re struggling.

Even compliments tend to make you feel bad or doubt yourself.

You may know or suspect they’ve been lying & manipulating you to defend misaligned priorities and control narratives.

🤍 Whatever it may be that lead you to down this path, part of you already know you deserve to be surrounded by people who genuinely love you, care for you, and show up for you 🤍

💌 What I’ve Learned:

Don’t keep people in your life out of guilt, that’s not a good reason. You’re holding yourself back from the right ones. I’ve lived every version of it.

Not everyone deserves your friendship or empathy. Seriously.

Some people are truly only looking out for themselves at the end of the day, and will betray you every time you give them an opportunity.

People are a reflection of their experiences; you’re competing with their childhood.

Your worth comes from your intentions and behavior- not from projections or from your past, simply from who you choose to be each day.

All we have is the moment we’re in, quite literally nothing else is guaranteed to us. It’s comforting if you let it be.

Be grateful, be cognizant, be honest. It’s worth feeling more free, lighter, and more in love. 🩷

It’s gotten better before, it will get better again. Breathe deeply and be where you are, you’re coming back home to yourself. 🥰

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