edited vs unedited 🖤

For as long as I can remember, I wanted to change my body. And not in the “I just want to get better, feel better, and be healthy” kind of way. Up until a couple of years ago, I wanted to completely change my body. I hated the body I was in and I had to DO THE WORK to get out of this mentality.

We’re all guilty of letting comparison steal our joy and steal our love for ourselves. When I look back at photos when I was in “the best shape of my life,” I was the most miserable. I was regularly comparing myself to what I saw online.

I’m not telling you to not want to change, to not want to get better, to not have work done, or to not follow certain people.

I myself have wanted to grow and become more confident in myself.

I myself have wanted to get better and be better than old versions of myself.

I have had two breast augmentations done.

I have followed people who have made me feel bad because I compared myself to them.

To be honest, most of the time it’s really hard to even tell if someone edits their photos, so here’s what I do/what I recommend:

• Social media cleanse (unfollow anyone that makes you feel unsure of yourself or less than).

• If you feel bad unfollowing, utilize the mute feature - you won’t be able to see their posts or stories.

• Follow people that share the same values as you.

• Follow people that make you want to be better, or make you feel safe.

• Scroll less. Seriously. I get on, I post, I interact with my community a bit, and then I get off. Scrolling less almost eliminated this comparison mindset for me.

Whether or not someone edits their photos or they just simply look a way you wish you did, all I am telling you to do is realign with your power.

You HAVE POWER over your peace of mind.

You HAVE POWER to scroll less.

You HAVE THE POWER to use mindfulness in your days to work on loving your body WHILE working towards your INDIVIDUAL goals.

You are so strong for wanting to better yourself, get stronger, get healthier - and you do not have to look any sort of unrealistic way to be all of those things.

My message to you is simple: be you. Be 100%, authentically you - you’ll be so shocked at how many people love YOU are grateful for your authenticity.

#embraceyourbody

#embraceyourcurves #editing #instavsreality #normalizenormalbodies #postedvsdeleted

#socialmediaisfake #youareworthy #loveyourself #loveyourbody

2024/2/6 Edited to

... Read moreIt's so easy to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to the 'perfect' figures we see online, isn't it? I know I did for years. What often goes unseen, though, is the immense effort and technology behind those seemingly 'flawless' images. When we talk about edited vs unedited photos, we're not just discussing a quick filter; we're often looking at extensive digital alterations designed to create an unattainable ideal. These manipulations can range from subtle skin smoothing to drastic body modifications. Think about it: many apps and tools allow users to subtly (or not so subtly) reshape their bodies. A waist can be cinched, hips rounded, arms thinned, and glutes enlarged with just a few swipes. I've seen firsthand how these changes, like a smaller waist or larger quads, can be digitally added, making us feel inadequate when our real bodies don't match up. The goal isn't to shame anyone who edits, but to understand that what we consume online often isn't reality. It's a curated highlight reel, often far from an unedited photo. For me, a huge turning point was learning to recognize the signs of an edited photo. Look closely at the background – are lines straight, or do they subtly curve or warp around the body? Does the skin look unnaturally smooth, almost plastic-like, lacking natural texture? Are proportions realistic, or do they seem exaggerated or out of sync with natural human anatomy? Once you start noticing these things, the illusion begins to break, and you realize those 'perfect' bodies are often just digital creations. It truly helped me differentiate between real vs edited and put things into perspective. Beyond just spotting edits, what truly helped me reclaim my joy was a deeper commitment to self-compassion. Scrolling less and curating my feed was a huge first step, but the internal work was just as vital. I started practicing daily affirmations, reminding myself of my worth beyond my appearance. For example, I'd tell myself, 'My body is strong and capable,' or 'I am worthy of love and respect, just as I am.' Instead of focusing on what I wished my body looked like, I shifted to appreciating what it does for me – carrying me through the day, allowing me to move, laugh, and live fully. This mindset shift made a profound difference in my journey to accepting my edited body as my real body. If you're struggling, try journaling about your body image feelings without judgment. What triggers your comparisons? What makes you feel strong and confident? Celebrate your progress, no matter how small. Maybe it's hitting a new personal best in a workout, or simply enjoying a meal without guilt. Consider connecting with communities that promote body positivity and celebrate diversity. It’s about building a relationship of kindness and respect with your unedited body. Remember, your worth isn't determined by how you look in a photo, edited or otherwise. It's about who you are, what you bring to the world, and the authentic love you cultivate for yourself. This journey isn't always easy, but embracing your authentic self is the most powerful thing you can do for your peace of mind and overall well-being.

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Holly Faye

THIS. I can relate to this so much and completely agree, if it robs your peace it’s got to go — even if it’s hard to not know what some people are doing…your mental health will improve if you limit your comparison triggers. Thank you for sharing this 🫶🏼

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