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A black background with white and yellow text asking if an avoidant is avoiding because they're not interested, and stating the author spent 10 years in an anxious-avoidant cycle and knows how to break it. A red arrow icon is on the right.
A black background with white and yellow text listing two signs an avoidant is still interested: they withdraw but always circle back, and they feel conflicted about the distance. A green checkmark icon is at the top.
A black background with white and yellow text listing two more signs an avoidant is still interested: they stay close in low-risk ways, and they actually hear you. A red arrow icon is on the right.
A black background with white and yellow text listing signs an avoidant is likely not interested: they vanish until you reach out, don't ask how you are, act like nothing happened, and their distance grows. A red 'not interested' icon is at the top.
A black background with white text describing the author's personal experience of shrinking to feel safe in an anxious-avoidant dynamic for over 10 years. A red arrow icon is on the right.
A black background with white text explaining that trying harder doesn't fix the anxious-avoidant dynamic and introduces a handbook titled "Tired of their AVOIDANCE?". A red arrow icon is on the right.
A black background with white text listing the contents of the handbook, including why avoidants pull away, what to say, how to stop spiraling, and how to protect peace. It encourages grabbing it from the profile.
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Currently in a “situationship” since Thanksgiving 2024 with an avoidant person. His infrequent attempts to reconnect always pull me back in. And I definitely spiral when I don’t hear from him. I’m a smart woman, I know exactly what’s happening but I keep letting him reach back out to me. I finally blocked his number but he found me using some app. I’m now texting with him again. Why? 🤷🏼‍♀️ My friends and therapist hate him but no one has ever met him…

2025/5/23
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