Things you shouldn’t say to your kids. Ever.
Hey SGFC Fam!
How are you guys doing on this gloomy Thursday?
Raining super heavy at Jurong wtf
I’ve been thinking about something that’s very close to my heart.
A lot of people tell me I’m a hands-on and good daddy to my girls,
but the truth is I wasn’t always like this.
Growing up, my parents loved comparing me with my f*cking neighbours and cousins.
So I grew up chasing material things - thinking success = money, and money = love.
And when I became a father, I repeated the cycle.
I thought:
the more I earn → the more I can buy for them → the better a father I must be.
But life humbles you.
I learnt the hard way that my girls don’t need a “perfect” dad.
They just need their dad.
I saw how they became happier.
How they came closer to me.
How their eyes lit up not when I bought them something but when I actually paid attention, listened, and loved them with patience.
We only get one shot at this.
And every day, I’m trying my best to raise my daughters to be confident, kind, and deeply loved - not because of what I can buy,
but because of how I show up. 🥰
#parenting #parenthood #dadlife #intentionalliving #familyfirst
Reflecting on my journey as a parent, I realize how often well-meaning words can unintentionally hurt our children. For example, comparing your child to others may seem motivating, but it often makes them feel they’re never enough. Instead, I’ve found that encouraging my daughters to focus on their own progress and strengths builds their confidence. Another lesson I’ve learned is to avoid making love feel conditional. Threatening to withhold love when kids misbehave teaches them that mistakes make them unworthy. Instead, reassuring them that love is constant while helping them understand their actions has created a sense of security and openness in our family. I also realized that kids shouldn't feel guilty for receiving love or gifts. Explaining that these are given out of unconditional love, not obligations to repay, has helped my daughters feel valued rather than burdened. By speaking with intention—correcting with patience, offering support, and expressing love consistently—we are shaping not only their childhood but also how they will perceive themselves throughout life. These small shifts in communication nurture resilience and kindness, making family bonds stronger even when challenges arise.
