being on edge all the time isn’t normal…

Living with constant stress can feel overwhelming, especially when it becomes your default state. From my personal experience, recognizing that being on edge all the time isn’t normal was a crucial first step towards healing. What helped me most was understanding that self-care is highly individual — what works for one person may not work for another. For me, therapy provided a safe space to unpack the layered pressures I faced daily. It wasn’t easy at first, but having a professional guide me through my emotions helped me realize I wasn’t alone or weak. Moving my body regularly, whether through walking or yoga, also became vital. Exercise released tension and boosted my mood in ways I didn’t expect. Journaling was another powerful tool. Writing down my thoughts and feelings helped me process overwhelming emotions and identify recurring stress triggers. It also gave me a record of my progress, which was encouraging on tough days. Finally, accepting medication as part of my journey was liberating rather than stigmatizing—it was one more way I took control of my mental health. For many Black women, the weight of societal expectations and systemic challenges can make prioritizing self-care feel like a luxury. However, neglecting mental health always catches up. It’s important to acknowledge how deeply our bodies signal when we’ve reached our limit. Learning to listen and respond compassionately is a form of healing in itself. If you’ve been feeling constantly on edge or overwhelmed, know it’s not too late to start caring for yourself again. Small, consistent steps—whether seeking professional help, moving your body, or simply giving yourself permission to rest—can make a meaningful difference. Remember, your wellbeing is not negotiable, and you deserve peace and balance every day.