I’m going to go on a rant that might offend you
It seems like the more fit I get, the more people offer their opionos on my body.
“Don’t get too skinny.”
“Dont get too muscular.”
“Did you gain some weight back?”
“You’ve lost too much weight.”
I know that most of the time these things aren’t said with ill intention.
But I would NEVER comment on a woman’s body like that, no matter her size or her age.
Especially if I wasn’t taking care of MY body.
If you don’t unerstand how difficult and how much discipline it takes for a 30+ woman to lose body fat and put on muscle, I do not want to hear your opinion.
Just focus on being supportive of women and taking care of yourself.
If you feel personally victimized by this statement, you may have accidentally body shamed someone in your past.
The goal of this post is not admonition, but awareness.
Please be respectful.
A simple, “Have you lost weight?” or “You look strong/great/healthy,” would be the kind way to do this.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
Fit from #gymshark
In my own fitness journey as a woman over 30, I've experienced firsthand how difficult it is to balance losing fat and building muscle. It’s not just about physical changes but also about mental resilience against the unsolicited opinions that come with transforming your body. Many people don’t realize how much discipline goes into managing nutrition, workouts, and recovery, especially when metabolism slows down with age. Friends or acquaintances often feel entitled to comment on your body—telling you not to get "too skinny" or questioning if you’ve gained weight back—without considering how those remarks can affect your confidence or motivation. What I've learned is that the energy spent worrying about others' opinions doesn’t help anyone. Instead, focusing on self-care and seeking support from communities that uplift rather than criticize makes a significant difference. Positive feedback like "You look strong," or "You seem healthy," can empower women on their fitness paths far more than judgmental comments. Also, it’s important to address how pervasive body shaming truly is and that sometimes, people are unknowingly guilty of it. Raising awareness helps create a culture of respect where everyone feels encouraged to pursue their health goals without fear of criticism. Finally, the message behind "Imagine the propaganda that makes people-focus on RO GUE" reminds me of how social pressures and unrealistic body standards create unnecessary stress. By promoting body positivity and respect for individual journeys, we can help break down harmful stereotypes and support women in their commitment to fitness and well-being.