Unhealthy things I am unlearning as a mom 🌸
Being a good mom is my top priority.
1. Punishing emotions.
I will not get my daughter in trouble for yelling at me, crying, or anything else. If you were crying and somebody told you you have no reason to be, or that they’ll give you a reason to cry, how would you feel? Worse?
2. Shaming.
“I put a roof over your head.”. Yes, you brought them into this World. That’s your job!
3. Yelling.
Yelling doesn’t equal control, and it doesn’t gain you respect. It can harm your child severely as well. It teaches them to fear you, not respect you.
4. Using “Because I said so” as an excuse.
This is just the equivalence of “sh*t up”, or “get out of my face”. This sentence can harm my relationship with my daughter, teaches her fear and anxiety, and encourages low self-confidence and poor communication.
5. Not eating what is “for dinner”.
There is nothing specific “for dinner.” If I am cooking for the family and she doesn’t like what I’m cooking, as long as she tries it, I will gladly cook her a different meal. Yelling at your kid, making them sit at the table until they finish, or saving it for breakfast the next day and making them go to bed hungry might as well be ab*se. I don’t care if you think i’m sensitive for that. I’ve been through it and it harms me to this day. Some kids have sensory issues with different textures and flavors.
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As a mother, adopting healthier parenting strategies can significantly improve your child's emotional development. Many moms, like myself, learn the importance of addressing emotions without punishment. When children cry or express feelings, it's crucial to validate those emotions rather than dismissing them. This helps cultivate their emotional intelligence and assures them that their feelings are legitimate. Additionally, shaming tactics, such as reminding a child of sacrifices made for them, can create feelings of guilt and anxiety. Instead, positive affirmations and open dialogue can strengthen the parent-child bond. Young children do not respond well to yelling; it can make them feel fearful rather than respected. It’s vital to communicate calmly and assertively. Rather than saying, “Because I said so,” provide reasons for your actions. This encourages understanding and fosters trust in your relationship. Moreover, offering meal options can alleviate stress around eating. Understanding children’s food preferences helps them feel more secure. If your child refuses a meal, consider alternatives without forcing them to eat what they dislike. This approach not only respects their needs but also teaches them healthy eating habits by promoting autonomy. Highlighting the importance of a nurturing approach, these strategies can transform the parenting experience into one that builds resilience and emotional well-being.
Love this all, just forgot the pushing ur religion on a tiny human that has no concept of an afterlife, and is actually quite frightening to be involved in as a child.