What it’s like to be a BOY MOM
What do you think when you think of a “boy mom”?
You may think of the girl with jeans, sneakers, a blue or white shirt with a baseball hat and sports gear in the back of an SUV.
Stereotypes vary amongst all categories of people including this one
Me, as a person, I have always been a girly girl! I enjoy playing in makeup! I enjoy doing crafts, singing, dancing! Everything from desk supplies to things to wear were pink!
But then I got pregnant with a boy.
All of the sudden people questioned how much pink was in my life. Small things like Christmas decorations, cups I’d pick up for myself, accessories like purses, clothes id wear, all became judged. Why? Because I had a boy.
Because I was having a boy, when I was pregnant people wondered why I wore pink clothes. Because I had a boy, why would I pick out pink Christmas tree decorations? Because I had a boy, why would I want the pink scrubby to use in the shower, or the pink tumbler to use, pink pajamas to recover birthing in.
It all suddenly had to be blue.
But why did I have to change me in my interests just because I gave birth to the opposite gender?
More recently I changed purses. I had a blue purse, it was something I bought a while ago, my pink one just like it wore out. So I used the blue one while I shopped for a new bag. Well I used that blue one for about a year. I recently scraped together some money and bought me a new purse. It was close enough to what I was looking for, slightly bigger but it was pink! Well I took it out with me for a play date. Lo and behold, my friend had to comment on it on why would I get a pink purse when I have a boy….
It’s a never ending cycle with what people think you should do as a boy mom.
My son is 4. He’s the most caring and smart little boy I ever knew. He treats me like a princess getting my shoes for me. he is amazingly smart with reading and math. He has its own opinions, his own characteristics that make him one of a kind. And guess what? He loves to do yoga with me!
Lastly, his favorite colors, are yellow, and you guessing it! PINK
Stereotypes are terrible in all shapes and forms. But remember not to judge a book by its cover and respect people as they are.
Being a 'boy mom' is such a unique journey, and like my experience with the pink vs. blue debate, it often comes with a whole set of unspoken expectations and realities. When I first became a mom to my little guy, I quickly learned that society’s assumptions about raising boys often miss the mark. It's not just about colors; it's about so much more – the energy, the interests, and the incredible bond you build. One of the biggest 'realities' I've encountered is the sheer energy! I used to think I was energetic, but boys often operate on a completely different level. From the moment their eyes open, it's go, go, go – running, jumping, exploring every nook and cranny. I've learned to embrace it, finding ways to channel that boundless enthusiasm into productive play, whether it's building epic forts, exploring nature trails, or just having a good old-fashioned dance party in the living room. It’s definitely taught me to be more present and to find joy in the chaos. Then there are the interests. While my son loves yoga with me and even has a soft spot for pink, he also has a deep fascination with trucks, superheroes, and anything that goes 'vroom.' Initially, I worried I wouldn't connect with these 'traditionally boy' interests. But I’ve found so much joy in learning alongside him. We've spent hours identifying different construction vehicles, creating elaborate superhero backstories, and even trying to build our own 'inventions' with craft supplies. It's not about changing who I am, but about expanding my world to meet his, and in doing so, enriching both our lives. Another stereotype I've heard is that boys are less emotional, but that couldn't be further from the truth in my experience. My son is incredibly sensitive and expressive, albeit sometimes in different ways than I might have expected. I've focused on creating a safe space for him to share his feelings, whether it's frustration over a toy or pure delight at a new discovery. Teaching him to identify and communicate his emotions has been a huge part of our parenting journey, and it’s something I believe is crucial for raising kind and empathetic individuals, regardless of gender. Ultimately, being a boy mom has taught me to challenge those 'society assumes vs reality' narratives every single day. It's about celebrating his individuality, nurturing his spirit, and showing him that it's okay to love what he loves, whether it's a bright pink shirt or a muddy puddle. It’s also about finding unexpected strengths within myself. I've learned to be more resilient, more playful, and often, surprisingly adaptable to whatever adventure my little guy dreams up next. From tackling scraped knees to navigating complex emotional outbursts, every day brings a new lesson and a deeper connection. My role isn't to fit him into a box, but to help him shine in his own unique way. It's a messy, beautiful, and incredibly rewarding adventure, full of unexpected joys and endless love that truly defies any stereotype.
i’m a pink girly girl .. my son who’s 2 months old because my room and everything around me is pink … he’s so used to pink he will only look at pink things 😂