No one can waste your time but you.
If marriage is the goal, why are you sacrificing yourself for this man? He was sure about having sex with you, sure about making you a baby mama, sure about going half on the bills, sure about you staying up late holding him when he was crying, sure about you supporting his career, sure about the girl up the street, and sure about making you look crazy.
If you really think about it, he’s actually great at making decisions but when it comes to marrying you, suddenly he’s confused. He needs more time. There’s more to fix.
Every “no” brings you closer to your knees, begging and changing something else about yourself in hopes he’ll propose. He’s supposed to be on bended knee, yet you find that you’re the one on your knees begging. You might not be physically proposing to him, but figuratively, you are every time you make a slick comment, ask him why, or fight for him to notice your worth.
You’re putting in all this effort, and he hasn’t even shown he’s husband material. Then we act surprised when we see the halfway proposal at Olive Garden twenty years later. You taught him that he didn’t have to put in any effort so why would he start with the proposal?
Then comes the begging for a better proposal or a lavish wedding, hoping he’ll finally prove he cares. But the moment he shows he doesn’t want marriage that’s your chance to leave. If it’s not a “yes,” it’s an “I don’t want you. We may not believe In the Disney princess romance but one things for sure they showed us when a man knows they know and it doesn’t take long. Even in the Bible it does not show any man that met his wife and God told him wait 12 years then propose. Everytime God gave a man clarity on who his wife was their was an emediate reaction moving towards marriage. God doesn’t even want his daughters waiting 6-15 years later with a man. It’s not in his plan at all so why are we doing it. Your own father knows your value, told you it, wrote a whole book about it, sent his son to die about it and yet you turn around feeling you have to beg to be chosen when you already are. Who told you that you weren’t enough.
Prayer -
God I pray for clarity over your daughters that they may see and hear your words like never before that they are chosen already. The choice is made and they don’t have to prove it. You are his daughter. May you give them back the years they wasted and may they live and also have faith and hope again for love. May they know you won’t hurt them and that they are safe in the fathers arms. May you open those wounds and heal them that when a man shows them they don’t want them or tells them no they don’t hear that they are worthless. May that not go into survival mode and think know I have to protect the little girl in me and prove to the world I am enough. May they go to that little girl and close the door and say you no longer have to prove your self anymore. Validate her and tell her little (insert name ) you are enough and I choose you and God does too. When you’ve never heard a “yes I choose you” it’s easy to break at every no I don’t. Now may we as women have a firm foundation on you God that we don’t let the no don’t break us anymore. You say “I declare the No’s from a man from this day forwards will no longer break me. I will not repeat those no’s in my head but repeat Gods yes’s”
If you’ve never accepted Christ as your Savior and feel led to, I invite you now to open your heart to Him. Ask Jesus to come into your life, forgive your sins, and be your Lord and Savior
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In many relationships, women often find themselves giving extensively—emotionally, financially, and physically—only to face uncertainty about marriage or a committed future. This experience can feel like an endless cycle of proving worth, hoping for a proposal that may never come, and battling feelings of not being enough. The signs that a man is wasting your time include persistent confusion about commitment, lack of effort towards marriage despite shared responsibilities, and a pattern of delay that stretches for years with no clear intention to formalize the union. It's essential to recognize that true commitment manifests as decisiveness and respect for your time and emotional investment. If a partner is certain about expecting intimacy, co-parenting, and sharing bills but hesitates or postpones marriage indefinitely, this imbalance can be deeply hurtful. Genuine love respects boundaries and honors mutual readiness without leaving one partner begging for validation or a 'yes.' Drawing from both personal wisdom and spiritual insights, such as those found in the Bible, clarity often comes swiftly when a man truly knows he wants to marry. Long delays and continual 'no's are not signs of love but of indecision or disregard. Women are encouraged to embrace their inherent value and the truth that they do not need to beg to be chosen—they are already worthy and enough. Prayer and faith can be powerful tools in healing from the wounds inflicted by uncertain relationships. Embracing self-worth and God's acceptance provides a strong foundation to reject toxic patterns and break free from cycles of hurt. Reclaiming wasted years means no longer tolerating half-hearted commitments and knowing when to say no to relationships that do not honor your value. Ultimately, empowering oneself through awareness, faith, and boundaries leads to healthier relationships. It invites the possibility of love that honors and chooses you fully, rather than one that keeps you trapped in doubt and prolonged waiting. Remember, your time is precious—no one can waste it but you.
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